Hillary Greer


I would like to make my coming out, but I ...

At 63 I am still confused and miserable. I love women but have never had a full-on relationship with one. I want to know if I can be a part of a bi- or lesbian community that values fidelity? All the bi\'s that I\'ve met were interested in threesomes and I am definitely not. Can I come out at 63 and not lose all my friends? I am too old to start over and yet... I want the love of a woman. What should I do? Do I try to get accepted in the glbt community in my town? I used to be before I married my last husband. I don\'t want to be isolated or shut off from any part of the world. I should have gone through this in adolescence. Why I didn\'t I don\'t know. I had a lesbian friend but she didn\'t turn me on, she was butch. I like feminine women. I am in an agony of indecision. I feel like at my age I must decide and stick to it. Thank you for your time.


I realized I feel like a man…

Hi, Since 3 or 4 years, I realized that I feel like a man, although I'm a girl, physically. When I was young, I was feeling like If I was born in the wrong body. That made me feel very uncomfortable in public. Today, I feel angry when people call me by my "true" name or "Miss", or everything that reminds me my real gender. To ease the situation, I wear daily men clothes and my close friends call me by a male name. Moreover, I realized that I'm attracted by men. As a result, I needed to share my problem with my parents fastly, because I became depressive and confused. However, they didint believe me, and they said that I was probably fool. They hope that I'll be cared, some day, but I'm enough mature to know that the situation wont change. Later,I would like to become a realy man, but I'm afraid to loose my parent's love. I need your help, to know how to make my parents understand my sorrow and my trouble. How should I expalin them the transsexuality(and also my "homosexuality") issue?


I am aroused by pictures of female genitals, is it ...

I’ve considered myself heterosexual all my life.I had and still have romantic and sexual attraction towards particular men.However, there is one thing that is haunting me, namely I am able to be genitally aroused by the pictures of both male and female genitals.I began to masturbate when I was 5 or 6. When I was 8 or 9, I used to masturbate while looking at playboy pics, which was the only sexual thing in my environment at that time. I remember I used to fantasize about myself being one of those women posing for men; these fantasies accompanied masturbation as well. Now, as I am older, I don't react in that way anymore.However, I noticed that I am still able to be aroused by the pictures of female genitals. I tried to imagine myself having sex with a woman, but it simply doesn't appeal to me. Am I bisexual because of this arousal? Can I still name myself heterosexual? Or maybe it arouses me because I associate it with oral sex performed on woman(I'm virgin and use porn to masturbate)?



Should I tell these girls I like them?

Well hello! I'm a 13 year old bi-sexual girl. I really have no problem with being bi, and my friends dont either. Well to get to the point, I have this HUGE crush on this lesbian girl i go to cadets with but I dont know how she feels about me. Last time we talked about it, she had a girlfriend but they didnt go to the same school and hadent seen eachother a whole lot lately (that was almost 2 months ago) and she likes this other girl that's straight, and is my age. (the girl i like is 15) But when we went to this summer camp (cadets) she kinda flirted with me. And at night it was SOO cold usualy we'd all sleep 2 in a bed and she'd always want me to sleep with her ^.^. and this is before i KNEW i was bi, well i kinda did but i didnt admit it quite then. Anyway, but theres also my friend from school that i really like but she's (so far) straight. Almost the same situation. She flirts a lot, not just with me though. I really like both of them but i dont know if i should tell them, or what.


How do I win her affection quickly?

Well I like this girl and I like her so much, I would maybe have to say that I love her. But we really don't talk to each other. I'm almost 13 I'm in 7th grade and and also the girl I like. She 12 and almost 13 too. A lot of other kids like her too and including my best friend but you can tell that she really doesn't like him but he is always telling me that she likes him but she doesn't even smile at him. So we have only said hi to each other one time. I really need some advice fast before someone takes her away and we don't have any classes together


I’m a girl. So is she. How can i be ...

I really like this girl from school but i hardly know her! I have a friend that knows her though, and so i ask about her often. But she likes a guy and so I'm sitting here watching and waiting. I know that it would be stupid to walk up and start talking to her when I know that we're both girls. I tried talking to a few friends about it, but most of them hate her. And so what if she's a "poser"...(in their opinion) I've talked to her a few times and i really like her. Sometimes i catch her staring at me, and other times she catches me staring at her. We both look away quickly, but i still want to know if she likes me! How can i tell...and what if she already knows if i like her?