Hi Tega, thanks for writing to Alterheros with your question.
Telling someone that you have a crush on them is always a pretty intimidating and scary thing to do! The fact that you are crushing on girls that may or may not like other girls definitely adds to the stress and confusion. It’s really great that you are so open and accepting of your own sexuality though, Tega. It seems like you have a pretty great support group around you, which can only make life easier!
You say that you like two different girls now, both of them flirt with you, but only one of them is interested in women as far as you know. You are wondering if you should tell them about your feelings for them, or just forget about it. First of all, do either of these girls know that you are bisexual? If not, it might be interesting to come out to them first and see their reaction. As long as their reaction is a positive one, then I don’t see a problem with you being honest about your feelings for them. If they are your friends then they will hopefully stick around with you even if they don’t reciprocate your feelings. Friendships (just like any relationship) are most often built on trust and honesty. So I believe you should be honest with your friends about how you feel about them. If you decide to do this though, you will need to be prepared for any kind of reaction. Yes, they may feel the same way for you, but they may also get freaked out and not want to talk to you anymore. Only you can decide if that is something you can handle.
Of course this takes a lot of courage and is all easier said than done. However, in my opinion, if you want something to happen you need to act! You can’t expect life to happen to you, you need to participate.
Good luck Tega! Don’t hesitate to come back to Alterheros with more questions.
Hillary, for Alterheros