Dee Gamme


How do I tell him I have a crush on ...

So I'm gay and I met this guy I knew is gay here in college. During our free time before classes started we hung out practically every day, and to this day we hang out as much as we can but with a couple of other friends. But ever since then I've had the biggest crush on him. He recently came out to us (even though he didn't know I already knew), but I don't know if he knows that I am. There has been many occasions were I've planed to tell him about my crush. Now I feel that it is the time but certain emotions keep me from telling him this. I am thinking the next time I get to hang out with him alone to confess ... but I need someones help.


I want to be a lesbian, but I am unsure ...

I'm an 18yo girl who is very confused about her sexuality - I have gone from thinking I was straight, to gay, to bi and now I just don't know. Currently, I really really like this guy but I am not sexually attracted to him. At the same time, I really like this girl and I am sexually attracted to her. I have never found myself sexually attracted to guys, only girls, but my childhood crushes (until I was about 13) were all on guys. Also, this guy is the only guy I have ever really liked, as in, I think I could actually love him, I have otherwise lost interest in guys, but for some reason, I want them to like me and I sometimes get nervous when in close proximity to them. What does all this mean? This might be odd, but I actually want to be a lesbian, not bi or straight, but I'm not sure why. Is it possible to be emotionally attracted to both genders but sexually attracted to one? If this was true for me, am I still technically a lesbian (that's how I would prefer to identify)?


My husband has had same sex intercourse and cross-dresses- should ...

Hi, I have been married for 4 years. Early in my marriage my husband shared with me that he had had same sex intercourse. I didn't know what to do. In my culture that is called"gay" no matter if later on you are married. I seeked help and they recommended a divorce. I love him so much that I didn't and to make it better he told me it was just a test to see what would I do. Yesterday he told me again that it was true. He did have same sex intercouse more than once and he liked it. He also likes to put things in his rectum when he masturbates. Also, he says that he doesn't like guys because they are gross and that is wrong. However, he wants me to wear a strap-on to see if I like it. He also wants to dress like a girl, wears my underwear and shaves like a girl. I think this is too much but I love him. I want to be with him. I don't know if wanting to be with him is wrong. What should I do? I am really confused.



My boyfriend wants to change gender, and I am uncomfortable ...

I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 24. He wants to change gender and he knows I'm bisexual. I tried to support him but I'm uncomfortable with this. Also, he was in a long-distance relationship and I'm pretty sure that he didn't break-up with this girl, because she is still sending him gifts and love messages. He knows I am in love with him and I'm scared he's using me. He has a lot of people who want to be with him and he never tells them that he has a girlfriend.


I like to cross-dress as a female, does this make ...

Much like a question I saw on your site, I like to crossdress in private & wish I was female. I love looking at the female body but wish I was one. When I crossdress I pretend I'm with a man and I masturbate. When I have sex with a woman I fantasize about being her or that I'm a woman & she's a man. I've been with lots of women but feel I'm more inclined to want to be a woman. I'm not sure if I'm gay because men do nothing for me unless I'm dressed & fantasizing about being a woman. But I know most women will not accept me as I am so should I date men? Am I a homosexual? I'm very confused right now. I have a daughter and a very religious family so I can't be a full time crossdresser.


I am 18 and my 16 years old girlfriend came ...

I saw a question similar to this but want to ask for advice in my situation. So, I've been going out with Erika, my girlfriend, for almost 8 months. It's not my first long-term relationship but it is for her--it's her first lesbian relationship. She wanted to come out to her family and I told her I'd support her. Once her family found out though, well, her mom hasn't stopped crying. And I know she blamed me because I "converted" her in her eyes, and I could see why she would feel disrespected, considering I've slept over etc. I texted her mom and told her I was sorry. She told me that I had given a horrible pain to her family and to stay away from her family because Erika was confused and that since she is 16 and I'm 18, an adult, I should just stay away. My gf says her mom would never sue me but I'm scared, our moms work at the same school. The last thing I want to do is stay away from Erika, though. So what do I do?



My friend is acting moody with me since I expressed ...

Recently I became paranoid that my boyfriend, who is really good friends with one of my best friends, would start to want to be with her instead of me. I told them both that I felt threatened and my boyfriend understood and reassured me that they were only friends and could never be anything more because of the way they interacted. I trust them both and I believe them. Anyway, a few days after I spoke to them about how I felt and got it resolved, my friend brought it up again and started to act really moody with me. She said that she felt like I didn't trust her anymore but I do! I wasn't sure why because she doesn't really have much to do with the matter apart from being the girl that I felt threatened by. She told me to think about others involved and how they felt so I asked her how she felt and she said it wasn't about her and blew me off. Why is she bringing it all up again after we solved the problem? How can I prove that I trust them and how can I fix our friendship? Please help!!


I think there is something wrong with my libido

I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now, and I do everything but sex with him, like I hardly ever feel horny and I don't know why. I really want to have sex with him and have done it before with him. I just want to know why I won't do it every night, and I never do anything to him, he always gives me all the pleasure and I wantto give him pleasure but I don't know what's up, so please help me!!


Should I take hormones to become a girl?

I'm a girl trapped in a boy's body. I've only cross-dressed once, but it was the best feeling of my life! The thought of painting my nails and wearing make-up gives me amazing thrills. Is it a good idea to use horomones (when I'm in college) and completely and legally change my identity so that no one knows that i was John but was always Mckayla?