Hi Molly, and thanks for your question.
I can understand your distress in the context of this uncomfortable situation.
From what you’ve said about your friend having a delayed reaction and telling you to consider the feelings of others involved….I am guessing perhaps one of two things might be going through her head (or maybe both at once), although of course we cannot be entirely sure about her state of mind.
Perhaps she was hurt that you mistrusted her, and even after you explained yourself, she still found it hurtful. Or, maybe your friend has feelings for your boyfriend, and while she doesn’t want to tell you or hurt you, feels sad because she knows it would be wrong to steal him from you. This could explain her moodiness around you lately.
Nobody can guess what’s in another person’s head or heart unless it is directly expressed. If your friend insists that nothing is wrong but continues to act moody, there is not much you can do about it. Try to take her moods with a grain of salt. I don’t mean you should completely ignore her, but allow her to pout and vent, and maybe she will eventually tell you what’s bugging her. Either that, or it will pass on its own.
Stay positive, and if you have any more questions, don’t hesitate to contact us again,
Dee, for Alterheros