7 June 2003

Should I be straight forward and tell my new friends that I am bisexual?

I “came out” to the school that I am currently going to and to my mother; but I am moving and now I don’t know if I should be straight foward and tell the new people at the new school that I am bisexual. What do you think I should do?

Also, I have accepted that I am at least bisexual, but lately I have been feeling that I might be more than just that. Lately, I have been really wondering whether or not I might be lesbian. I still have some feelings for guys, but I’m still not sure. Do you think that I may be lesbian, or do you think it’s something else? Like maybe just a faze or something.

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Dear Holly,
I’m glad to hear that you came out to your mom and your friends. It’s not an easy goal to achieve but you did it ! You must feel pretty relieved now.

Now that you’re moving, you will meet different people that are not biased by “how you were before your coming out”.  You won’t feel the pressure to not hurt their feelings since you’re installing a new relationship with them.  The basis of the friendships you’ll develop should be straightforwardness, otherwise you’ll be going right back to that closet you toughly came out of, don’t you think? If people you meet are not ready to accept you the way you are, should you be the one having the problem with it? I don’t think so! It’s a tough adventure to come to terms with our own feelings and desires without having to bear the weight of other people’s hard time facing it. I’m not telling you to introduce yourself as Holly, bisexual, but if they ask you about your love life, you shouldn’t be ashamed and be honest. You’d be surprised to see their reactions.

As for you questioning that still remains about your attraction towards boys and girls, I’m afraid they’re isn’t much I can do to help. You still need time, and maybe experience. That’s the only way you’ll be able to find out.

Enjoy the discovery!
Daniel Gariépy, Nurse