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My partner is asexual and I’m not. How can we ...

I feel kinda awkward asking this but there aren’t many ressources so I think this is my best shot. I’m trans and my bf is also trans. We are in a long distance relationship. He’s asexual and I’m not however he’s pretty okay with having sex he just doesn’t get anything out of it and he prefers kinky things then actual sex. We’ve tried a few things but I wanna find a way I can make both me and him happy sexually dépiste being far apart. Any suggestions on how to do that in long distance relationships ?


I have this lump that hurts when I touch it ...

Okay so I have this lump that hurts when I touch it on my vagina. I have been on testosterone for almost 3 years now. I also experienced appetite loss and a little bit of bleeding when I pee. I am freaking out. I am seeing my doctor on the 26th which is almost a month of waiting. I don’t want to go to the clinic because I’m trans and the ressources are pretty horrible outside of Montreal and I have generalized anxiety. I now it’s too quick but I think it might be ovarian cancer so double the freaking out. Have a good day!


Can you be a gender non-conforming woman?

I’ve always identified as a cisgender girl. Recently I’ve realized how restrictive gender feels. I don’t want to adhere to gender norms, rules or expectations. I just want to be myself. I like she/her/hers pronouns, I like being referred to as a girl. But inside, I feel like I don’t want to be labelled. For example, I don’t always shave, I sit with my legs wide open when I want to, i like feminine, masculine and androgynous styles... Maybe I want a label that feels more free, even if it’s temporary. Is it ok to explore and then change your mind about gender? Can you be a gender non-conforming woman? Could I identify as femme? Feminine-of-center? I have no idea. Should I continue to identify as a girl? (I don’t want to claim labels that are for trans and genderqueer people). Is this kind of feeling and questioning normal? Also, On a totally different note, are there sexuality or gender labels typically used by people of colour? Thank you Isa



I feel like I’m living in hell

This is not a gender or sexuality related question. It’s just a question I can’t ask anyone else and need professional opinion on. I feel like I’m living in hell. Genuinely I’m starting to lose the concept of reality cause everything in my life hurts so much. I think I might be living in hell and I’m sorta scared that 1- I’m right or 2- I’m going crazy or 3- I’m in so much pain this is the only awnser I can come up with. What do I do ? I’m scared


I had a wet dream about a boy and it ...

Hi there, I’ve been tormented by multiple mental problems over the last 2 months including depression, anxiety and I started questioning my own sexuality but the way it started was weird. I have never in my life questioned my sexuality or felt any romantic or sexual feelings towards other men but one night In July I had what you would call a wet dream about a friend who I kinda don’t like. After that dream I woke up with a boner and I was scared to death. Now fast forward a little bit and I find myself trying out different things, first I just tried to ignore it but that didn’t help. I couldn’t get hard thinking about women at all and “I” was only aroused by homosexual content. I wrote “I” because it was like I had 2 conflicting personalities, My own personality was disgusted and repulsed by the idea of me being with another man but the other me was aroused by it. A few weeks went by like this and I started being able to be turned on by females again but I couldn’t shake the other thing off and whenever I thought about my sexuality, it would reset me to point 1 and I would have to do it all over again. Then some weeks later it felt like it was over and I would get turned on by women again and not men anymore but somehow I began thinking about it again and now I’m back at the problems again and I can’t escape it. All I’ve ever wanted in life is a normal and natural life with a wife and 100% me and my wife’s own kid, and I still want that. I would literally do anything to go back and everything besides my dick is saying no to all this bullshit. I’ve read so many articles and forum post that I’m confused at to what the problem is and no, it has nothing to do with “coming out”. my family and friends would a 100% accept me if I was gay or anything. I would rather isolate myself than be gay or mainly attracted to men. I’ve only met resistance In life and now this too? I might blow my brains out Jesus.






I am heartbroken – girl in love with a gay ...

I am totally and completely in love with a gay guy. When I met him he was bisexual and I dated him for 2 and a half years... I love him so much, he is the only person that can make my heart beat faster and slower at the same time... We prioritized each other in everything..... and I have so many memories... We were best friends who have been through everything but my heart is ripped and can't be healed. Now that we're not together anymore, I shall never love again. He was perfect. I love Zak and I have to accept everything, it's hard and I have been through more than anyone I know. People ask me how can I love him, but no one will ever know him the way I know him... Hopefully I will get help from you. I can't get him out of my mind, I'm hopelessly in love. Any advice would be welcome. Please I feel my heart died. What can I do????



I think my fiance is bisexual because he has no ...

My fiance and I are about to have our first child, and it seems lately he's had no sexual desire for me. Before I became pregnant we had a lot of sex, and he enjoyed being anally stimulated by me. My question is: why is it that before I didn't really feel my man was bisexual but now I'm having doubts. The only thing that would make me wonder is the fact that he took nude pictures when he was younger for an openly gay man. He also allowed this man to take him to FL to strip for extra cash on a few occasions. He vehemently denies any "homo" behavior with ANY man and becomes very angry if I question him. Is it possible that he found out on his own that he liked anal sex or is it more likely that this happened after an experience with a man he then knew? I don't know what it is but my intuition tells me he's keeping something from me. I just don't know if it's the fact that he's bisexual or even gay and just scared to "come out". I looked at the previously asked questions and didn't find anything similar to my situation. Please help!