23 March 2005

My sexual fantasies are confusing me. Help!

I’m really confused about my sexuality. I’m a male and I’ve always emotionally liked woman, I’ve already dated some and i really had pleasure and orgasms with them except when it comes to real sex. I usually get excited while masturbating with lesbian sex, and also with male gay sex. As I get excited imagining gay scenes I am really confused about my sexuality. I never got excited with male friends or other any other man I see. Please help me and thank you very much! – Marcelio

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Dear Marcelio,

Fantasies, what you think about while masturbating, can be totally outside what your sexuality normally includes. This is totally normal. So while you might enjoy imagining gay sex while you masturbate, it does not mean that you are gay, or want to act on the fantasies.

There are many fantasies that people have that they enjoy in their mind, but would never want to physically act upon. (Lesbian sex or domination, for example, is something people might fantasize about, but not want to actually participate in.)

As long as you’re not hurting yourself, or others, enjoy your fantasies!

Have fun!

Team AlterHeros