11 August 2008

I have a gay friend but I always catch him looking at me, what can this mean ?

I have a gay guy friend of mine, and I always catch him looking at me; for example, my cleavage, and also I noticed he eyes other girls too.
I can swear this guy is 100% gay as I have never seen him with girls. What can this mean?

sarah eidelmans

Hi Lara,

It sounds like you are feeling confused. It also sounds to me like you have made a few assumptions about this friend. You say that think he is gay because you have never seen him with girls, but there could be many reasons why you do not see him with girls. It’s possible your friend is shy or maybe not looking to be involved with anyone right now. Is this something you have ever discussed with your friend? Has he told you that he identifies as gay? This might be something you want to talk to your friend about if you feel comfortable doing so.

It also sounds like some of the things he does (such as staring at your cleavage) confuse you or make you uncomfortable. This might also be something you want to address with your friend (even if you are not comfortable talking to him about how he identifies). Whether he is gay or not makes no difference if he is doing something that you are not OK with.

I hope this helped.

Thanks for your question, Lara. Feel free to contact us again!

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