17 May 2002
Do's & Don'ts List : For Family and Friends
Do’s & Don’ts List : For Family and Friends
Équipe -Pose ta question!-
Do |
Don’t |
Do listen to what your loved one’s life is like, and what kind of experiences he or she has had in the world. | Don’t blame your own feelings on your loved one. |
Do take the time to seek information about the lives of LGBTQ+ people from parents ofLGBTQ+ people, friends of your loved one, literature, and, most of all, directly from your loved one. | Don’t rush the process of trying to understand your loved one’s sexuality or gender identity. |
Do get professional help for anyone in the family, including yourself, who becomes severely depressed over your loved one’s sexuality or gender identity. | Don’t assume that your loved one should see a professional counselor. |
Do accept that you are responsible for your negative reactions. | Don’t criticize your loved one for being themselves. |
Do help your child (or loved one) set individual goals, even though these may differ drastically from your own. | Don’t expect your child (or loved one) to make up for your own failures in life. |
Do try to develop trust and openness by allowing your loved one to choose his or her own lifestyle. | Don’t try to force your loved one to conform to your ideas of proper sexual behavior. |
Do be proud of your loved one’s capacity for having loving relationships. | Don’t blame yourself because your loved one is gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans. |
Do look for the injured feelings underneath the anger and respond to them. | Don’t demand that your child (or loved one) live up to what your idea of what a man or woman or non-binary person should be. |
Do defend him or her against discrimination. | Don’t discriminate against your loved one. |
Do respect your loved one’s right to find out how to choose the right person to love and how to make relationships last. | Don’t try to break up loving relationships. |
Do say, “I love you.” | Don’t insist that your morality is the only right one. |