Suzanne


About Suzanne

Suzanne holds a bachelor of Arts in Anthropology from Arizona State University in 2001 with a Minor in Religious Studies. She also completed another Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from Thompson Rivers University in 2010. Suzanne also participated in two workshops through La Clé des champs, a community-based mental health support organization for people suffering from anxiety disorders.

I am interested in being a part of Tell the Experts because I like the thought of being able to help people in some way. I know the struggles I went through and an organization such as this would have been wonderful to have had available.


I don’t feel grown up at age 28: I don’t ...

I'm a 28-year-old, sexually entirely inexperienced man who has for the larger part of his life been trying to figure out his sexual identity. Since I was about 14 I've experienced frequent emotional attraction exclusively to the opposite sex but physical attraction only to the same sex. Physical attraction, however, also only to males I don't know and have never met, i.e. faceless, nameless fantasies I masturbate over through gay porn. But I've never been attracted to a male friend e.g. Instead I tense and cramp up when someone unexpectedly touches me. I've also never sought out random sexual encounters with men I don't know as it's merely the fantasy of it that intrigues me and I don't believe I could go through with it. As a result of my inexperience and confusion I feel very inferior to everyone and not grown up at all. When people ask me if I'm gay, straight or bi, I'd like to give them an honest answer but since I don't know myself I only get embarrassed. What would [you suggest?]


I think I have sadism, gender, sexuality issues

I think I may be having gender, sexuality and sadism issues. Where gender is concerned, I'm biologically female. However, I completely loathe the idea of anyone perceiving me as such, but I know there's no way for me to be male and I don't want to be one. I'd prefer to be neither or both. And I'm not attracted to men or women- but I am really attracted to the idea of them being hurt, sexually or otherwise. Whenever I hear that some young, promising person has committed suicide, or a very loved child has been murdered, it really excites me, until I realize how disgusting that is and I don't know what to do. Part of the reason why I don't want to be perceived as female is because they are perceived as vulnerable- I like that on other people but not me. I don't think any of this is right. I have no romantic options like this, I would like them, but I just don't like other people. Am I sadistic + asexual or just messed up in the head? How can I accept it or change?


I didn’t come out to my dad – now I ...

I'm a 21 year old female in a long term relationship with another woman. I have been 'out' for about 3 years and have never experienced prejudice because of my sexuality, although I know my mum doesn't really like it. I've never spoken to my dad about it but i know his happy as long as I am. But recently I've been having horrible thoughts.For example if im watching tv with a sex scene, i think of my dad. i am not attracted in anyway and get frustrated that I cant stop these thoughts. Its like my mind wants to think of him in a sexual way but i manage to distract myself although I feel angry and sick. I have no thoughts of him when I'm having sex with my partner and it happens when im not distracted or busy. the thoughts happen about 10-15 times a day and its driving me mad. I dont understand it and I want it to stop. My partner is aware and reassures me that I'm not mad, but i feel lik i am. why after 3 years of being out does this happen?



I’m sure I’m attracted to men, but i’m repulsed by ...

Hi, I'm really confused. I'm a male, 19 years of age and I have always been attracted to men. I am a virgin and I'm not sexually active. The thought/sight of a man's penis does not arouse me in fact, I feel repulsed by it. What does this mean? Am I actually straight? Who should I talk to about all this? Surely by 19 I should have figured this out so that I can get on with my life! I'm sick of all this uncertainty.


Should I ask her if she’s bisexual?

I'm a girl and I think this girl I've only known for three months likes me. I have classes with her and I would often see her staring at me and if I look back at her, she would break the contact and I think she only does this because she's shy. Sometimes, she would walk around me dreamily and I don't know if she really does this with her other friends. Then, just recently, I was sitting on my desk and she walked up to me and she suddenly held my hand and I thought she was finally gonna tell me that she likes me but she didn't. Apparently, she was showing a friend her technique on arm wrestling. What confused me more was why was it me that she had do that arm wrestling technique with when she had friends sitting near her desk. I admit liking the touch of her hand. I don't know if she's bisexual too, like me, because her crushes are mainly guys (celebrity guys). What should I do? Should I ask her?


How can I tell my mom I’m transsexual while I’m ...

I want to come out to my mother as a transsexual. She knows I'm bisexual, but she's still doing the "it's just a phase" thing. Other than that, she seemed open enough about it, and overall accepts my sexuality. I want to tell her about this now, while I'm still young. I'm not sure if she'll be supportive. How can I tell her in a way that'll be easy for her, and maybe encourage her to support my decision?



How do I fit in as pansexual at the age ...

I identify as a pansexual, but I feel like I don't fit in with the LGBT Community. Is pansexuality a homosexual subgroup or something else? I am 13 and feel that if I come out people will just ask "how do I know" since I'm young and not fully matured. I don't want to feel like I have to lie to my friends and friends. I feel lost and confused and feel like I no one to turn to.


I don’t have many chances to talk to boys, but ...

I'm a 16 year old girl. I've never had a boyfriend before. I don't have any brothers and I go to an all girls school. I don't socialise with people outside of my immediate family and school friends, so I don't have any friends that are boys (as opposed to boyfriends). Recently I was talking to a boy I met on a volunteer programme. I thought he was nice, but I wasn't sexually attracted to him. This got me worried about why I wasn't attracted to him. I began to worry that I might be gay, even though it had never ever occurred to me before. Once I started thinking about it, I couldn't get the thought out of my head. Suddenly, I began to find women sexually attractive, even though I never had before. I have always found guys good-looking, but I have always known when girls were pretty as well. All I've ever wanted, old-fashioned as it sounds, is to get married to a man and have children. I don't understand this. I don't have a crush on any girl at all, and never have. Please help.