Images of my father haunt me during sex

Dear Alexandra,

I would definitely recommend seeking out a qualified therapist to assist you on this one, since you say the visions are starting to affect your daily life. While random things often pop into people’s heads while they’re having sex, this type of repeated and unwanted image isn’t something that you should have to live with. Since I’m not a therapist myself, I do think it would be best to speak to someone who specializes in behavioral therapy, as they can help you to figure out why these images are occurring, and then enable you to retrain your mind so that you can avoid them in the future.

You say that you have never been molested or raped, to your recollection. Sometimes these types of scarring memories are repressed, and you should be prepared for the possibility that this conversation could come up in therapy, but in the long run the therapist is there to help you, no matter what the root cause of these troubling visuals.

Here is a link you might find useful as a starting point:


Good luck!

– Laura

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