24 October 2017

I have feelings for a lecturer and I don't know how to address that with him!

Elizabeth Parenteau
Thanks for replying. I was shocked when I received your mail I even forgot that I sent an email. I talked to him about the project first before having feelings for him. I don’t know if this makes sense but it was after I talked to him then that I notices he kept looking back at me. that’s when I had that idea and I now have feelings for him. I thought about it a lot so I came to the conclusion that if he hadn’t stared at me like I said in my earlier email I wouldn’t have feelings for him actually that’s what I thought.
I can’t really talk to anyone about it and I can’t also talk to the lecturer about it either. the interactions we had was really cool, okay and professional that I even thought I imagined him giving me the stare but he actually did that’s what I’m sure of. so what do you think?
Hi Safeenah,
Thank you for taking the time to reply to our initial response on AlterHeros. If I understand correctly, you are starting to have feelings for him, but you haven’t really addressed that with him or with anyone else.
If he is still looking and starring at you a lot, I think it’s definitely something you could address with him slowly. You could simply start by talking to him a bit more and interact with him at school to get to know him as a person. I know you mentioned having feelings for him, but by getting to know him a bit more, it might help you figure out if he likes you back without asking him directly how he feels. I hope this will help you determine what you are confortable with in this situation. It is really important to respect your own pace in this situation and to take the time to determine what you want from these interactions.
We thank you again for your trust and please don’t hesitate to send us a message if you feel the need to!
Elizabeth, for AlterHéros