i have a huge crush on my teacher and she is older than me by 21 years and she’s unmarried im (19),she knew me since i was (11),i liked her as a teacher when i was younger but now after all the eye contact/staring she gives me i’ve started to feel something..i know im a lesbian but didn’t think i’ll actually fall for her someday,she doesn’t teach me anymore but i see her almost everyday..and i don’t know if she loves or not but here what she does to me:
1/she keeps staring at me when she sees me out of class
2/she told me once to smile only to her when im upset
3/she once told me to close the door and while im doing so she told me that im the only one who feels her
4/she saw me holding my friends hand and got kinda upset then said “okay wow” when i told her it was because i have a test and this calms me down she told me that i don’t need it and she kept telling me that
5/i was once getting something on ground and then she came and stood right behind me..she was so close to my butt for some reason
6/i was once fixing my bra and she kept looking at me doing so
7/i was once joking with her and told her that i don’t like her and she was like “okay u don’t like me thanks!” and when i was about to leave she asked me”so u don’t (love) me huh?”
theses are some of the things that happened to me..i really want to know if she likes me or not..i don’t mind that she’s older than me btw
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From what I understand, you have a crush on your teacher and you don’t know if the feeling is mutual. You list a few everyday situations filled with eye contacts and smiles that make you think she might reciprocate those feelings.
I get it though! Schools are sometimes breeding grounds for lots of things like love, and friendships. But schools also have rules… It’s usually explicitly forbidden for students and teachers to have intimate relationships. You said that she doesn’t teach you anymore, but in a lot of places, that rule still applies several years after they stop being your teacher.
Those rules are in place for a reason: there is a power imbalance in the student/teacher relationship. That disparity might play into your interactions with her. She’s in a teaching position, which is considered a position of authority towards you and the rest of her students. This makes your relationship inherently unequal.
There’s no real answer to your question. What I may suggest is working trough your own feelings. Having friends around will help you process your emotions. You can also try dealing with it by doing other activities and meeting new people. Letting go of your feelings is never easy but it might be best. It doesn’t mean that you can’t keep contact with your teacher, but it’s better to keep it on a professional level.
If you’d like, you can always look up other answers regarding student/teacher relationships:
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I understand how difficult and confusing this may be. If you have other questions, please don’t hesitate to write again.
Best of luck!