22 September 2002

Love: How Do I Know?

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How do you know when you’ve fallen in love, and/or if this is the person you want to have a sexual relationship with?
There is no simple checklist or quiz that can answer these questions for you.
You need to look inside yourself; look at how you feel about this person.

Do you trust them? Do you enjoy being around them? Do you want to be intimate with them? Would you feel comfortable being naked in front of them?

Good Bad
The good news is that a good relationship can change the world as you know it.

Of course, a bad relationship can do that too, but not in such a good way.

A positive relationship allows you to continue being your own person, while being party of a couple.

A bad relationship is one in which you don’t feel you can be yourself, or when you feel pressured into doing things you’re not comfortable with or that you wouldn’t normally do.

Again, you should know who you are and what you’re comfortable with before you have other people asking you those questions.

True love can last. It may start out like infatuation, but the differences are clear. Loving someone means knowing who they are – the good and the not-so-good qualities. It’s respecting (and often, sharing) their values, choices and feelings…the glue of an awesome relationship. Love means respecting space and time – knowing that your partner is emotionally there, even when they can’t be physically beside you. You may (or may not) choose to start a sexual relationship with the one you love. But remember that there are many ways to express your affection for someone, and sex is just one of those ways. Choosing not to have sex doesn’t mean you don’t love each other…it means that you have found other ways to spend quality time!

Provided by the Society of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists of Canada / La Société des obstétriciens et gynécologues du Canada