Hi Trichelle !
Thanks for writing back to AlterHéros. For the question about future kids, that depends on what’s the most important thing for your boyfriend. It depends if for him, his couple is more important than having a baby, or having a baby is more important than staying in a relationship. Don’t forget that he may consider having kids in the future, but for the moment he prefers staying in this relationship even if his boyfriend doesn’t want kids.
But, he depends very much on his boyfriend if he is paying for everything. But is this totally wrong ? If everyone (including his boyfriend) is ok with the situation… but in a long term way, your friends can not make balanced decisions, because he depends financially on his boyfriend. Another time, if his car or other material things are more important for him than freedom…
In the past years, while you were attracted by this friend, have you tried having another relationship ? Sometimes, to forget someone, it is easier when you meet other people. Not the first guy you see, but trying to find another boyfriend may slow down your feelings for your friend. But, it is possible that he will always be in your heart : sometimes, you can love deeply a person for the rest of your life, but this person will always be your friend.
You can always write back to AlterHéros if you want !
François, for AlterHéros