How To Survive a Blind Date
Given the popularity of personal ads, blind dates are a fact of life for gay men. These simple steps will help you to avoid a blind date disaster.
written in 2002
- Arrange a time and place meet. Plan to do something low pressure, like meeting for coffee or brunch.
- Make sure you will be able to recognize each other. If you haven’t exchanged pictures, then tell each other what you’ll be wearing.
- Arrive promptly at the appointed time and place.
- Spend some time chatting and getting to know one another. Don’t talk just about yourself; ask him about his interests.
- If things aren’t going well, be polite. After you’ve finished with coffee/brunch/whatever, say thanks and be on your way.
- If things are going well, feel free to suggest extending your date to include dinner, a movie, etc., but understand if he has other plans.
- If you want to see this person again, make arrangements either to meet again or to call one another.
- Observe the ‘three-day rule.’ Call him within three days, or he’ll assume you’re not interested.
- For your own safety, arrange to meet in a public place. You shouldn’t invite a complete stranger to your home, nor should you go to a stranger’s home.
- Tell a friend where you’re going, just in case.
- If things should get intimate, remember to play safely!