Hillary Greer


About Hillary Greer

Hillary is currently completing her Bachelor of Social Work at McGill University, hoping to continue on to her Master degree after. When she lived in Toronto, she volunteered and worked at an alternative youth and family counselling organization with Dr. Karyn Gordon. Since moving to Montreal, she has completed an internship at Head and Hands, and has now been involved with AlterHeros for almost two years! She am now doing an internship at the MAB-Mackay Rehabilitation center, working with families of young children with hearing impairments and developmental delays.

Being a part of the outreach team at AlterHeros has given me the chance to explore a wide variety of topics and connect with the queer community a bit more. I had a lot of emotional support growing up and was supported in whatever choices I made. I love being involved with Tell the Experts because it enables me to be able to connect with individuals who might be looking for that kind of support for themselves. Growing up, exploring and questioning yourself, and coming out can be difficult and sometimes scary, and I am thrilled to be able to help as many people as possible to make this journey an easier one.


I’m wondering if I’m bi but I accept whoever I ...

Hey! For a few months now, I've been thinking a lot about my sexuality. I think I'm bi. But here's where I am a bit confused: I only fall in love with men, but I'd rather have sex with women (I'm still a virgin, but I sometimes fantasize about women). I'm still young and naive and I don't have much experience in love and sex (never had a boyfriend and I'm not really in the lookout for a relationship), but I feel bad. I don't want to objectify women, but that's how I feel: fall in love with a man, have sex with women. Am I a horrible person?! >.< I still haven't told ANYONE about this. But I really do want to talk to someone about my bisexuality. Is it just a phase? Is it wrong of me for feeling this way about men and women? Should tell anyone (I do have a bi male friend, but he never ever talks about it)? Anyway, I really don't know what to do or how to feel. Whatever the answer, I accept and love who I am. I still love to love, whatever the sex. Thank you! :)


I came out and was well received, but I feel ...

Hi, I just came out to my parents and I guess they took it relatively well. My mom and dad assured me they still loved me and wont treat me any different but I can't help but feel REALLY awkward and disconnected around them now. I know it's the first day but I feel badly that they have to go through this. Whenever I see that they're upset i always want to fix it, but I can't fix this. Will I ever feel comfortable around my parents like I did this morning before I told them?


Not looking for a sex change, but want to be ...

i'm a 44year old male but i don't class myself as a male or female however i do wear womens' cloths some times and underwear 24/7 i don't even own a pair of men's pants i'm not looking for a sex change but i am desperate to be castrated as i hate having erections i have no interest in women only men and i'm totally submissive i need to talk to my doctor but here in the UK they seem very unwilling to help how do talk to my doctor about this subject without making myself look a complete lunatic i don't want to go to some seedy bdsm club /s&m party where things can go wrong, please help



Even through mixed messages I think she likes me

I've been friends with this girl for over a year now and i started falling for her from about 3 months into the friendship. We fell out about 2 months ago but started talking and spending time together again really quickly. From then we have been really flirty together and it seems as though we both want more than just being friends. She gets really jealous when i text this girl from work so much so that it's come to a point where i can't text her when i'm with her. Then yesterday she asked me if i thought she was hot, then later on randomly out of the blue sent me a message saying 'love you'. Does this mean she's interested in me as more than a friend or not??? I'm really confused.


I’m a 16-year old Iraqi boy – I want to ...

hi,,I'm 16 years old and I'm gay ,,and my friends never hang out with me ,,bcz they think I'm gay ,,what am i suppose to do,,and i cant tell them that I'm gay ,,bcz I'm in iraq if someones know ,,i will be killed ,,if there is someone can take me out of this place ,,plz help me i am in an emergency ,,im always alone ,please help me , im just 16 i don't want to waste my life by hiding my sexuality i want to be free to say "i am gay " like everyone in europe or u.s.a ,please answer as soon as possible ,,bayar


She has feelings for me, and I don’t know what ...

I am a "straight" woman going through a divorce. My best friend is a lesbian. We have been friends for about a year. We have kissed a couple of times but mostly just for the hell of it on my part. Recently I find myself thinking about her all the time and having very leading conversations with her. She and I have actually ended up in bed twice in the last few weeks. She has made me very aware that she has feelings for me. What do I do? I am afraid of hurting her. She is my best friend and want the friendship to last. I am still attracted to men (and honestly don't think I could ever give them up) and have told her that! Should I just let things happen? My comfort level with her sexually is questionable. I enjoy the attention but am unable to reciprocate. I imagine that takes time? She is the only girl that I have ever been with. Should I stop the sexual relationship before we are both hurting more? I'd never be with another girl. We have just grown very close.



I’m bi and I like my bi friend – how ...

I'm sure you get these questions a lot, but none of the ones i found really fit me. I'm a bisexual girl, and i like one of my friends, who is bisexual too, and knows that im bi.I think we flirt alot, we're always laughing with each other and playing around, but I;m not sure if it's the right time to tell her. Plus, our friends are usually with us all the time so im not sure when i'll be able to get her alone. We're really good friends and I don;t want her to feel awkward if she doesn't like me back. What do I do?


I’m gay, but keep having ‘straight’ dreams.

Ever since I became sexually cognisant, I have identified as gay. From that time onward, all my sexual fantasies, dreams &c. have been about men, but lately I've been having what can only be termed "straight" dreams, or dreams in which I am confronted with two options, a man and a woman. The man has always been this guy to whom I am attracted, but the woman has been imaginary. In my dreams they tell me that I must make a choice between the two of them, but I tell them I cannot as I care for both of them. These dreams have been bothering me excessively since I've never really questioned my sexuality before--I've always just known to whom I was attracted. What could be the cause of this sudden confusion? I am under a lot of stress right now, but is that the sole reason for these dreams?


I’m a straight female but would rather be a gay ...

I am a 21-year-old straight female but I feel like I would rather be a gay male. I have always been exclusively attracted to males, never females, but for the past couple of years I have been wishing more and more that I had been born a male. I know that being attracted to males, if I was born in a male body, I would be a proud gay male. Something that has clued me into these feelings is the fact that I can only get aroused by gay (male-only) porn, not straight porn. In fact, just seeing or hearing a female engaging in sex really turns me off, while seeing or hearing two or more males engaging in sex turns me on immensely. But it's not just a feeling that I relate to sexually. I adore gay-themed romantic movies and am sometimes brought to tears after watching one when I realize that I will never get to have that experience. I know there are similar questions out there, but I would really like to know if it's possible for a straight female to feel like a gay male on the inside.



We are both hetero, could she really be in love ...

A female friend of mine, (22), has told me she is attracted to me. I am also female, (36), and we are both heterosexual. She is very distressed and confused. I was her teacher in school and helped her a lot. We work together now at times. I realize she is confusing feelings of admiration and respect for an authority figure and reading it as love. I have explained this to her as gently as i can. Is there anything i can do to help her to overcome this? We can't avoid each other (and don't want to) and have a very good and solid friendship. I feel guilty that she is so upset, she says she is going mad and is very embarrassed. Please advise. Thank you.