Will I be able to have a solid relationship ?

Hi Eric !

Thanks for your question.

You seem to have done a very big reflexion about your sexual orientation, and you now know more what you want – your sexual attraction for men, and sexual and emotionnal attraction for women.

Heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual people are confronted to the same problem as you : how can you have a solid relationship when there are plenty possibilities out there ?

There is not one answer to that question. For some people, monogamy is the best thing : you have a very intimate relationship with only one person, and no one else. There are homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual people who have chosen this option. That can be a little difficult, because we live in a very seductive world, but if it is your goal, you can do the efforts. And yes, there are bisexuals who are monogamous. They can be attracted to both sexes, but choose to be with one person at the time.

But, there are other people (of all sexual orientations) who don’t feel comfortable with the concept of monogamy. There are various types of “open” relationships, each one has its own rules.

You’re at the beginning of your sexual life, it may appear important for you to explore your sexuality. Also, you may have not met the “right person” for you… take your time !


François, for AlterHeros

About François Paquette

Impliqué au sein d’AlterHéros depuis 2004, François fait partie du conseil d’administration depuis 2005, à titre de vice-président puis de directeur de l’intervention. Il occupe ce poste de mai 2005 à mai 2007, puis de novembre 2007 à maintenant. Diplômé de l’UQAM en sexologie et de l’Université McGill en travail social, il a été employé dans de nombreuses organisations communautaires allosexuelles montréalaises, telles que la CJMLH et le REJAQ, en plus de travailler dans différents endroits du réseau de la santé.

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