Hi Flick,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. We appreciate you sharing how you’re feeling and it takes a lot of courage to be open about something personal.
It sounds like you’ve been going through a difficult time, and I can understand how frustrating and isolating it must feel. Friendships are important, and it’s normal to want meaningful and lasting connections.

There are a few things that might help with your situation.

Sometimes it helps to reflect on how we express ourselves during conversations. Try asking open-ended questions and sharing your feelings calmly when disagreements happen. Let your friends know you care about their opinions.

Every friendship needs a balance of give and take. Make sure you’re giving space for your friends to express themselves and make decisions. It can make them feel more valued and equal in the friendship.

If people have mentioned certain behaviors like being “bossy,” it can be helpful to gently notice your tone and approach in group settings. Practicing active listening (really hearing someone out before responding) can make conversations more collaborative and positive.

Disagreements happen in every friendship, but how they are handled makes a difference. When conflict arises, try to stay calm, focus on the issue (not the person), and work together toward a solution.

Friendships tend to grow stronger when there are shared activities and goals. Try to connect over mutual hobbies or things you both enjoy—this can build stronger bonds and create positive memories and experiences together.

You might find some helpful information and advice on building and maintaining friendships on the “Love and interpersonal relationships” page of our website.

Please remember that you can message us anytime if you have any other questions—we’re here to help and support you.

Take care

—
Elizabeth Parenteau