1 November 2010

My peers tease that I am gay - but I don't think I am!

I’m peter,15 years old….Since last month I’m afraid of turning gay…..but i don’t want to as i have fell in love only with the opposite sex….and i don’t think i will fall for men in the future…but at school I’m very friendly with girl and i always like to crack jokes among them. Some boys always say that I’m gay. When they say that I’m gay…i feel anxious and angry…..during my life time,i had watched only straight porn not gay porn.I don’t know why they say that I’m….are they jealous that girls talk with me??or am I gay???…….since I’m very anxious and this is affecting my sex drive.I don’t want to become gay but since they said that I’m gay ,i becoming very confused…..am i straight ???am i gay???or am i bisexual???

Sue York

Hi Peter,

Jorge, a friend of mine ,is heterosexual, even though others often tease him and think he is gay. He is very popular among female friends, as he is charming, affectionate, caring and humorous. What I like about him the most is that he pays attention to details of people’s needs and that he does not impose his will on others. This does not make him gay; rather, it shows his quality as a good person.

He was once confused by his friends’ comments and teasing. Instead of taking them in a negative way, he became curious about his sexual orientation. He learned that being gay means that he is sexually attracted by the same sex, which he found that he is not. Also either being gay, bi or heterosexual is not something to be ashamed of.

Now, here is a question for you: ‘are you sexually attracted by someone of the opposite sex?’ If yes, there is no reason for you to feel all the anxiety, confusion and anger. You know who you are. Your peers like to tease, that’s all. If not, you might take some time to explore the idea of different sexual orientations that make you a unique person among your peers.

Don’t be shy if you have more questions. We will be glad to explore your life together.

Y. for AlterHeros