There are certainly a lot of people who want to tell bisexuals that
they are “just confused,” and that they will eventually make up their
minds as to which gender they actually prefer. I think that the people
who tell you this are just scared of the possibility that they,
themselves, may not be as secure with their own sexuality as they’d
like to think they are, and they want to try to force others to see
the world in black and white.
The world isn’t often black and white. Mostly, it’s a lot of different
shades of grey. If you’re attracted to both men and women, then I
would say you’re bisexual. Some day you may decide that you are, in
fact, much more attracted to one gender than the other, and at that
point you may decide to revise your internal labels. Right now,
though, if you’re attracted to women and want to try a relationship
with another woman, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that!
Ultimately, if you believe you are bisexual, then you ARE bisexual.
It’s not something that anyone else can decide for you, and it’s
certainly not anything that people should try to talk you out of. You
obviously know how you feel; don’t let your friends try to tell you
that you don’t understand your own feelings.
As one final suggestion: Some people who find themselves attracted to
both men and women prefer to identify themselves as “queer,” to avoid
the kinds of problems with labels that you are currently facing. If it
would make you feel more comfortable, you may want to adopt this label
as well, though of course, it’s totally up to you.