My boyfriend recently mentioned that he would like to try anal sex. Could it be possible that he’s gay?

My bf and I have been dating for 3years. Recently he mentioned that he would like to try anal sex. Could it be possible that he’s gay?

Daphné Singh (elle/she)

Hi there,

 

First of all, I would like to thank you for your trust in AlterHéros.

To summarize the situation, your boyfriend has mentioned his interest in trying anal sex, and you’re wondering if this indicates that he is gay.

Let’s begin by defining homosexuality as a sexual attraction towards individuals of the same gender. While anal sex may be commonly associated with gay men, it is important to note that straight men can also engage in this practice. Actually, sexual practices do not have a sexual orientation. In other words, if a straight man engages in anal sex, it does not invalidate his sexual orientation.

Does your boyfriend want to try anal sex on you? If it is the case, do not worry, a lot of straight men fantasize and practice anal sex with their girlfriend. His curiosity about exploring this practice with you does not imply that he is gay. However, it’s essential to consider your own preferences and comfort level regarding anal sex.

Does your boyfriend want to try anal sex on himself? If it is the case, several straight men like to incorporate anal sex to their masturbation activities. They can also enjoy anal sex when their girlfriend practices it on them. In fact, men have a prostate that can be accessed through the rectum by the penetration of a finger or a sex toy, typically about 5-7 cm in (around the middle of the index finger). But what about you, would you be comfortable exploring this with him?

 

I hope it answers your question and gives you reassurance. However, I highly suggest initiating a conversation with your boyfriend to obtain further clarification.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us if you have any other questions.

Daphné Singh, volunteer for AlterHéros

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