About Misanka

Misanka is a recent graduate of Concordia University where she studied Women Studies. She is passionnated by pleasure based sex ed practices and the ways in which race intersect with sexuality. Aside from working at AlterHeros, she is also the coordinator of Sense Project (https://headandhands.ca/programs-services/sense-project/), a sex ed program, at Head&Hands in Notre-Dame-de-Grâce, Montreal.

I have been thinking a lot lately about my sexual ...

Hello I have been thinking a lot lately about myself, about my sexual orientation which i know nothing about it. I’ve been overthinking a lot about my condition. I’m not sure about my actual sexual orientation, i’ve been attracted to gay porn since 12 years old, now i’m 22 yo, i’m still attracted, but in real life, i just don’t know, i have a lot of male friends who i don’t find attractive to do something like porn, and also for 5 years, i’ve been living with male roommates, and i have never been saying to myself that i like this guy or o i’m attracted to that one, never. In addition, even if i was attracted by someone, i would never do that, first of all because of my religion that i respect, second of all because i won’t be liking doing sex with guys. I imagine myself with a woman, and ofc having children... i want to stoop thinking about this problem and live a good life, specially in my twenties. This problem affected me so much, that i can’t talk to any girl, thinking that i won’t be her prince. This problem is living in my mind for over 4 years now, but as im growing, im just letting go the idea of having a straight relationships, that i dream of them. I just want to be normal. I’m also thinking that my attraction to guys, is that i envy them about their dick size is, all i see during looking to a gay porn video o a photo, is just the person’s dick that all, because i think my 14cm’s dick isn’t enough, specially when all of my male friends have big dicks behind their boxers, i just envy them. I try telling myself that my self-confidence came from my unhappiness about my penis. I want to know how to deal with this shit, and how i can get what i want, a normal life, no gay thing no dicks, Just having a girl by my side and living together. Thank you

Are you aware of any organizations in Montreal related to ...

Hi I know this question may appear on your question page but ask if possible to remove my name :) I'm an Addictions Youth Counsellor in Montreal, I'm writing because I have a bit of a dilemma. Our Youth Counsellor team has been requested to lead a youth group for one of the organizations we work with, and they asked us to create a "boys and girls" group, which is problematic and exclusionary. We are now brainstorming ways to create a more inclusive group and recognize that some of our clients are currently experiencing bullying by peers in relation to gender identity and sexual/romantic orientation. As well, we have the added difficulty of having to offer this service online, which complicates our ability to insure a safe & confidential space. So my main question is: are you aware of any organizations that would be willing to help us navigated or offer resources on creating a youth group that is more inclusive but still mainly focused on issues related to addiction and mental health? Any resources or suggestions would be much appreciated!