Telling my friend I like her changed our relationship, but I still have feelings for her
Okay so i like my best friend, but shes straight and I’m gay. I’ve liked her for a year and a half and the first time I told her it ruined our whole friendship for a month.. and ever since it hasn’t been the same. I don’t know how to get over my feelings for her, and I really don’t think its just another stage. The last time I liked her I used to have dreams about her and then I told her and she took pictures of herself for me.. I really like her but I don’t want to ruin our friendship. So what should I do?
Letitia,
It’s difficult to be in a situation where you have strong feelings for a friend who doesn’t return them. Your friendship with this girl has already suffered and continues to be different since you revealed your feelings. Right now, you aren’t satisfied with the situation and are afraid of losing her friendship.
Regardless of sexuality, having feelings for a close friend is a challenging situation. Since she does not return your feelings, you have to make a decision based on what will hurt you less.
If you maintain your friendship with her, your romantic feelings will remain unfulfilled. It might be beneficial for you to try and meet other gay girls your age. It would allow you to form new friendships and other relationships. New people would give you support and a safe place to vent your feelings and also provide you with the opportunity to become romantically involved with someone who returns your feelings.
If you feel like you won’t be able to move on while remaining friends with your best friend, it might be less emotionally harmful for you to distance yourself from her for a while. Sometimes being away from the object of your affection is the only way to get over them.
Although people say it a lot and it’s become a cliche, time really does heal all wounds. Right now, it might seem impossible to imagine a happy outcome to this situation. With time, though, if you focus on doing what is best for you, you will find that the situation becomes less painful.
Sincerely,
Erinn,
for Alterheros
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