Kelley R


About Kelley R

Kelley is currently in her last year at Concordia University, studying Psychology and Interdisciplinary Studies in Sexuality. For two years, she lived and worked in the university residence halls as a Resident Assistant where she played an active part in aiding the residents as they made the change from high school to university life. In high school, Kelley was a member of her school’s gay-straight alliance. She held the president role in her last year where she led meetings and organized events to foster the growth of a tolerant campus.

I’m interested in being apart of AlterHeros because I have a passion for helping others. I feel that it is important to have an online resource where people can come to with their questions and have them answered in a relatively private setting, especially for those who may face discrimination in their home setting for coming forward with these types of questions.


Can I be labeled a girl or a boy or ...

Lately I've wondered if I would be happier as a boy. I don't hate my female body parts, I don't mind my breasts, though I think they look better in other people. I don't feel "trapped in the wrong body", but it isn't right either. I also have trouble with my sexuality, I am not turned on by anything but male gay porn, and feminine men. I am not boyish at all, and like feminine clothes, all except skirts. Am I transgendered? Should I be a boy? I don't think I would be a "boy", as in the stereotypical type, I am much more like a girl in that way. But sometimes I wish I was a gay boy. I wish people would ask me: "Elisa, what would have happened if you were born a boy?" I only have female friends, I am comfortable around them, and not attracted to them, I hate having periods, and I envy boys in some ways, yet I can tell women have it better in others. Can I be labeled as "girl" or "boy"? Am I something in between? Help, please!


I cheated with a girl. He took me back but ...

Hi, My name is Laura, I'm from Peru. I have a relationship with a boy for about 10 months and lately i cheated him with a girl because i wanted to experiment things with girls,(i told him about that girl that i cheated on, and he said we can get over that so we are still together) i really liked it a lot, but I'm not quite sure if i'm a lesbian? Or am i a bisexual? I told my boyfriend I was a lesbian because i can't stop thinking on girls, and i don't feel the same feeling for boys, and he totally got very sad but he didn't want to break our relationship, neither do i, but i feel atracted to girls. Additional to this, my boyfriend is a little afeminated so i guess when we are in bed i always look at him as a girl, is this normal? Am I a lesbian or a Bi? Thank you for reading my question and I would be really thank you if you reply the soon as possible.


I fantasize about women during foreplay with my boyfriend

hi. i am in a happy relationship with my boyfriend who i've been with for a year, we are talking about getting engaged sometime in the near future. i have always fantasized about other woman but never actually did anything sexual with a woman,when my boyfriend and i are having sex i never think of other woman but when he is doing any other foreplay i do, i've done it with other boyfriend and it hasn't really bothered me, but last night i started to feel guilty about it. then i started questioning everything about my sexuality. i do not want a relationship with another woman, i want to be with my boyfriend, and eventually get married to , so why do i have to fantasize?. can i also point out i have never orgasmed during sex, only foreplay allows me to do this, which i'm happy with.



My husband is trans – I feel like he was ...

My husband of 29 years announced today that he wanted to start taking hormones. That he would grow small breasts and his voice would change a bit. That he would have to have his penis removed---as it would shrivel up because of the hormones. First of all---is that true? I am at a loss. I only knew that he liked on ocasion to wear women's shoes---when we got married. It has escalated from there. He has has several affairs---he says only mentally---but I am not certain. I have tried to give him the benefit of the doubt---but I am not comfortable with his recent announcement. I do not wish to live as a lesbian---first of all because I have wishes and desires that will not be met. Also if my job gets wind of this---they will look for anything possible to get rid of me. There has really been no discussion of this---he refuses. He says that it is totally his decision and he does not care what I have to say or think about it. I feel like he was not honest with me from the start...


I’m jealous of

Could I be transgendered? Since I can remember I have fantasized (masturbated) about being a woman having sex with a man. I am extremely attracted to women but find it hard to be physical with them. Men do not turn me on, only when Im picturing myself as a woman. And even then I focus more on my visual aspects, smooth legs, breasts, nice curves and such, this is what really turns me on. Also if the man is dominating. I know that everything I have described is only sexual and that there is a lot more to being transgendered than simply having sexual fantasies. Sometimes I feel comfortable in my own skin and other times I get jealous when I see girls having girl talk and very much so want to be apart of their world. I can't quite say if I feel like a woman inside, at this point I really can't tell. Do my sexual fantasies mean that I may be transgendered?


If she doesn’t like me, why does she make out ...

K I have this best friend we have been friends for a year and a half and I have liked her a year into it. I told her I liked her and she says she doesn't but she Will kiss me, make out with me, and hold my hand and lay on me and she will let me hold her. But everytime I ask her she says sorry no I don't like you. I'm so confused does she like me? She knows I like her but when I say I like you she stays away but when I say I don't like you she attacks me in a very sexual way and basically f's me. What should I do?



I don’t want to use my friend to experiment on ...

So I have this friend and shes bi. I have never had feelings for a girl I'm completely straight. But I find myself thinking about her often. I mean shes very flirty with me. I'm a flirty person guys and girls i always have been. I think im starting to have feelings for her more than a friend. Ive never had feelings for a girl before. I had the urge to kiss her today. I don't really know what to do I don't want to harm our friendship. And if something happens between us and i decide i like being with guys better it will turn out bad i don't want to use my feelings as an experiment! omg plz help


I didn’t choose my orientation but I doubt it is ...

People always talk about how you are born with your sexual orientation. But I am unsure about this. I think I was born straight. Growing up I was always attracted to girls. I was aroused by naked photos of women and even cartoon drawings of women. Not until university did I start even noticing attractive men. I am confused because I think I am a good example of the "nurture" argument. I did not choose the attraction to men, but I doubt it was related to my genetics. I also don't know what changed my orientation. Why would it change? I think it might be because I've always been friends with girls and so I've become bored of them. Could that be true?


She won’t date me but won’t keep her hands off ...

Hi I am Tiffany I am bisexual I like this girl aloooooot. She is my best friend right now because of that reason. I've asked her out 3 times but she has denied me. What drives me crazy is that she can't keep her hands off me. She is constantly hugging me and kissing my cheek. My friends all ask if she is my girl because she hogs me and my attention. She will give me 20 minute hugs while breathing on my neck and wrapping her arms around it and kissing and biting my cheek. She jumps into my embrace everyday and kisses my cheek and sometimes my lips. Ever night she sends me a text saying "good night and sweet dreams beautiful I love you" what is her deal does she like me or what. And if not what can I do to win that angel's heart!!!!!! I think I may love her.



We are both married to men, but we are attracted ...

i am a 40 years old married woman with three children.I have a very close female friend of about the same age and she too has three children.We have been friends for six years and are extremely close.We have gone on vacation together but in all these years noting sexual has happened.We have shared bed,hugs and were always physical but neither of us felt sexually attracted to each other.Both of us are quite happily married and have never had or felt like having any gay encounters.Just recently we mutually became so sexually attracted to each other its driving us insane ,its just like falling in love for the first time :butterflies ,weak knees,arousal .looking into each other eyes,constantly thinking of each other ,wanting to hear each others voice, wanting to touch each other.So far we have not crossed any lines but we both know once given the chance to be alone we will.Please help there is too much at stake ,our husbands are close friends and we CAN NEVER DISCLOSE THIS TO ANYONE.Why now