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He reacted well when I came out, but I still ...

Hi, and first of all I must say that you helped me the first time! ;) But now I have another prob! Long story short, I told my male friend that I like him and that I feel something more,I was ready for the worst and I even told him "If you don't want to see me ever again I'll leave you forever,I understand how u feel" (I cried bc I was afraid), and he responded on this "I would be a complete douchebag if I'd do something like that! I am never going to leave you alone"...Honestly I was shocked, so I repeated "I'll give you some time to..." "No, no, I don't have to think about it, I said it"...After, he told me that its courageous from me to tell him how I feel and that I should tell more people coz its bad to keep all in me. Idk, I'm now more confused! I don't know what are his feelings,"never going to leave me?!" I think that he is afraid of relationships, and maybe he needs some time, but still... Please help me! And now when he knows the truth,I think I love him and need him even more.


I don’t want to waste my teen years on the ...

Hi, I am an unsure 15 year old. I have liked girls all throughout middle school, but suddenly I found myself becoming sexually attracted towards guys. It's something I wouldn't want, but would know if would have to face if it is real. I like girls, I find myself attracted emotionally and midly sexually, but to guys I have no emotional connection, and an almost overpowering sexual attraction. I am not sure if I am just fearful of the weird hormones during puberty, going through a weird phase with weird fantasies, or if I'm doomed to having only partially "whole" relations with either sex. I know I have a long time to decide, and I've been thinking about it for a long time, but the thoughts are conflicting and I'm still not sure. And I don't want to waste any part of my teenage years on a sex which I actually can't have a fulfilling relationship with.




Gay/Transsexual porn turns me on but I’m sure I’m straight.

Hey thanks for the great service! I have a question that's been bugging me. I've always identified as straight, throughout my life I've only had sexual and emotional attractions/relationships with girls, never once been attracted by men, but in the past year or so I've found myself turned on by the actual act of gay/transsexual sex. I'm not sure whether it's just the raw 'sexiness' of it or whether I'm trying to repress something, but I just hope this isn't the beginning of me turning bi or gay, as I love my hetrosexuality too much to give it up. I feel like I have no control over what turns me on but I just don't like it and wish I didn't feel it. The idea of romance or any kind of intimate contact with a man in real life would do nothing for me, but seeing it in porn and wondering about the sensations is a real turn on for me. Any ideas about this? Wish I could just understand why these feelings happen, it's making me really upset. Thank you!



Meeting other gay male teens in Humberside UK

hi, i'm a gay 14 year old and i feel like i'm lacking contact with other gays and its bringing me down a little bit. I've tried to meet guys near me but there aren't any obvious places to find gays. I was wondering if you knew of or could find any resources for meeting gays in my area, Beverley, Humberside, England. thanks :)



I don’t want to make the same mistake twice !

I have a crush on one of my female friends. She knows I'm gay, I do not what her orientation is. Every time someone else asks her who she likes, or if she's ever liked anyone, she always avoids the question. But like I said, I really like her. I'm wondering whether to tell her or not. Last year, i was in something of the same position, and the other girl freaked when I told her. I DO NOT want to make the same mistake twice. Last year hurt like anything. The other problem is that we're both in the same tight group of friends, and I have a feeling telling her, if the feelings were not mutual, would screw up the whole group. (It would cause a lot of incredibly awkward situations at best.) Do I tell her? If anything, is there a way to inquire her own sexual orientation without being terribly blunt? Friggin' middle school drama.


My friend still leads me on after she said she ...

I wrote in earlier about how I like my friend that is a girl, and how she was giving mixed signals. You advised me to talk to her and I did. It sucked. Every reason I gave to her about leading me on, she shut down. I asked why would she say that she gets excited when I text her, and she said she does with all her friends. I asked why she would be afraid of losing me, and she said because I’m a friend. Every answer was “you’re my friend”. That was 2 months ago. Now we’re good but she’s confusing me again. We were discussing hugging which we’ve never done, and I asked how she would like me to. She said as tight and as close as I want, as long as it lasts forever. When I asked what she meant, she said we could stand there all day holding each other and nothing else would matter. Then one day we said what we liked about each other, and she told me I had a nice body but "not in a weird way", pretty eyes that she gets lost looking into, and I’m so sweet. What does she want from me?


What if I’m a lesbian? My attractions confuse me.

Here’s my issue: I’m confused about my sexuality. I think men are handsome and attractive and if a guy I liked told me he liked me too and asked me out, I’d go out with him. When I look at a cute guy, I notice it and I smile. But, when I look at a girl, albeit in my mind not finding her attractive, sometimes I get a bit turned on and I get really confused about it. This has been floating in my mind for awhile and when I forget about the constant ‘What if I’m a Lesbian’ thoughts out of my mind and realize for a short while that I don’t like them, that ‘attraction’ disappears for awhile until it pops in my mind again ‘What if I’m a lesbian’ out of nowhere and I get afraid. So, what am I ? Bi-Curious ? Bisexual ? Lesbian ? Straight ? I really don’t know and I wish someone’d help me…



My obsessive fear about turning gay ruined my sex drive

Alright, here goes. I'm 19 years old, and still in puberty. All my life I've been attracted solely and exclusively to women, this includes enjoying sex, falling in love, etc. Then, a couple of months ago, I've been struck with an obsessive fear about turning gay, though there was no proof or reason to think so. This threw me into a long period of anxiety and depression which completely killed my sex drive. Anyway, I've gone through a whole variety of attempts to check whether I was truly gay or not, including watching gay porn, and a couple of times, masturbating to it. Here's the thing: I hardly get hardly any arousal from homosexual images or thoughts. They are often even unpleasant and undesired, however, when I tried masturbating to them, it felt... a lot better than usual. I don't think I could ever fall in love with a guy, or be with one... What does this all mean? Could I be gay? Bisexual? Combined with the recent lack of sex drive, this is completely destroying me.