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Is it worth opening up to him? I might lose ...

Hi, I'm seventeen and have not been sure about my sexual orientation since when I was about 15. I like girls but there is also a guy I know that i really like even though I really wish a didn't. Unfortunately we are really close friends so I really don't want to risk losing him as a friend, but I really like him. We tend to tease and play around with each other, but he has a girlfriend. I know he probably isn't attracted to me but I feel stuck in the middle because I feel like I'll be miserable for the rest of my life. I know that I'm still young but If this is how its going to be I don't want to have face this. I really don't know if its worth opening up to him and telling him what I feel about him because I really value our friendship but I feel the need to tell somebody. I've liked girls most of my life but now I'm not sure.


I didn’t come out to my dad – now I ...

I'm a 21 year old female in a long term relationship with another woman. I have been 'out' for about 3 years and have never experienced prejudice because of my sexuality, although I know my mum doesn't really like it. I've never spoken to my dad about it but i know his happy as long as I am. But recently I've been having horrible thoughts.For example if im watching tv with a sex scene, i think of my dad. i am not attracted in anyway and get frustrated that I cant stop these thoughts. Its like my mind wants to think of him in a sexual way but i manage to distract myself although I feel angry and sick. I have no thoughts of him when I'm having sex with my partner and it happens when im not distracted or busy. the thoughts happen about 10-15 times a day and its driving me mad. I dont understand it and I want it to stop. My partner is aware and reassures me that I'm not mad, but i feel lik i am. why after 3 years of being out does this happen?


I don’t want to keep being everyone’s poster-boy

So, I have been really confused about what I want in terms of my gender identity. When I look in the mirror I don't want to see "handsome" or anything male about myself. I really enjoy being a guy and I know this because I couldn't imagine life without my penis. I'm guessing you can call me genderqueer or androgynous, but how do I know if this is what I really want? I've already taken steps to look more female. I do my eyebrows, shave my body, wear makeup, and now I'm letting my hair grow. I feel really confident but my ultimate goal would be to pass as an actual girl from the face. My mom and dad are not giving me their approval anytime soon - I've done so much to be everyone's "poster child", and now I just want to break free from the boy everyone thinks I am. Any advice?



I reject the male label but am I transsexual?

I've been having many questions about my gender identity and I was hoping for your team's opinion (Obviously, I should talk to an actual therapist too). Even since the beginning of high school (I'm in my first year of college) I've become increasingly feminine, from growing my hair out, to wearing eyeliner and colorful nail polish, even wearing female clothing because I liked the look and feel in a non-erotic way, and I enjoy a more girlish nature. I've never hated my gender, and I always enjoyed boyish games at a young age. In fact it wasn't until the beginning of high school that I had showed signs. I did not know of transsexualism then, but I went through a period where I rejected the label male. I think that it's more than possible that I'm transsexual, but that I reject it because I'm deeply in love with a girl. Is it possible that I'm transsexual? If so, is it possible that I'm holding myself back for the reason stated and that it might be sorted out if I talk to her?