Tag: societal


Where can I meet another “lipstick lesbian” ?

So I've recently come to terms with my sexuality - I'm an almost 18 year old bouncing between bi and lesbian. Except the more I go online and find out about the community, the more I see that 'lipstick lesbians' (feminine ID) are usually not as accepted in the gay community as butch-looking ones because the "real" lesbians doubt their sexual orientation. This saddens me, because I'm definitely a "femme", attracted to other 'lipstick lesbians", and from what I've seen it seems to be incredibly hard to find others like me. I truly do not find masculine-identified lesbians attractive at all, and now I'm kind of paranoid there are very little 'femmes' out there - I'm scared of forever falling for the straight girls! So, is there hope for me? Where can I meet other 'lipsticks?' I live in Montreal. My friend has proposed to accompany me to a gay bar, but I'm afraid everyone will be in their thirties (as opposed to the "het" clubs we go to usually) and the majority butch-looking...