I am 18 years old and gay, but I have not come out. And I don't really know whether I want to. Although I am physically attracted to men, I still dream of marrying a woman, having kids and leading what most people would consider a "normal" life. I see this is a pretty gutless thing to do and yet I don't think I will ever have the courage to come out. And as I said, I still want to be able to have a relationship with a woman. Yet at the same time, I understand that if I'd grown up in a different sort of world where being gay didn't have so much stigma attached, I might not feel this way. Anyway, my question is basically is it wrong to have a relationship with a woman if you are definitely gay?