Tag: help


Though we fight a lot and he seems to have ...

I have feelings for someone and I think I'm completely in love with this person. We are both good looking men, the only problem is we do fight a lot. I think I'm in love for the first time but this person confuses me a lot. We have never been intimate and i do get this feeling he has someone, his brother in law works with me and confirmed that he doesn't have anyone.I do work for a security firm in South Africa and asked him if he does have a Alarm system with us, seeing that I do have access to all clients i did my own search and came up with his residence but came across his boyfriends details.I saw a picture of him and this person on the internet hanging around a night club in Johannesburg. I did ask him about it and he was upset, his boyfriend told everyone on facebook that they going through a rough patch. He told me to leave him alone but now and then I do receive an sms or e-mail from him.@ times he will even dial my extension number to speak to his brother in-law. confused.


I’m a 16-year old Iraqi boy – I want to ...

hi,,I'm 16 years old and I'm gay ,,and my friends never hang out with me ,,bcz they think I'm gay ,,what am i suppose to do,,and i cant tell them that I'm gay ,,bcz I'm in iraq if someones know ,,i will be killed ,,if there is someone can take me out of this place ,,plz help me i am in an emergency ,,im always alone ,please help me , im just 16 i don't want to waste my life by hiding my sexuality i want to be free to say "i am gay " like everyone in europe or u.s.a ,please answer as soon as possible ,,bayar




I feel suicidal about a guy who won’t return my ...

Hi, I met a 32 yo straight guy at a straight bar in December and brought him back to my place. I offered to give him a massage and he flipped and left, but before he leaves, he confesses to me that he is curious. We exchanged phone numbers and we spoke once, but then he didn't respond to my text message so I left him alone. Over the summer, I started thinking about how I enjoyed his company that night and how I was impressed with his interest in my personality. So, I called him back but two weeks passed by and he didn't call me back. Therefore, I call him and he told me that he would call me back that night or the day after. He still hasn't called me back. I am feeling suicidal lately and I feel quite depressed over this, I feel so unloved and unappreciated. I wish I could have him in my arms and tell him how much I miss him and care about him. Can you guys please help me? I can't take this pain anymore.



I didn’t choose my orientation but I doubt it is ...

People always talk about how you are born with your sexual orientation. But I am unsure about this. I think I was born straight. Growing up I was always attracted to girls. I was aroused by naked photos of women and even cartoon drawings of women. Not until university did I start even noticing attractive men. I am confused because I think I am a good example of the "nurture" argument. I did not choose the attraction to men, but I doubt it was related to my genetics. I also don't know what changed my orientation. Why would it change? I think it might be because I've always been friends with girls and so I've become bored of them. Could that be true?



I had a traumatic experience with a man. Now I ...

Hey! I've been put through so many difficult times in my teenage years. Even though i'm still a teenager, I feel as though i've lost my true identity. I am a Muslim and i'm very proud to be, even though the world has degraded my religion in many terrorist aspects. I'm very close to my religion and don't want to lose it. But two years ago *when i was 16* I had a secret boyfriend, to which he was 20 at the time. He took advantage of me in all sexual aspects and basically destroyed my mental and physical wellbeing. I ended up telling my parents as i collapsed one night from everything that he did to me. I eventually exposed the truth of me being 'gay'. Ever since then my family has tried to convince me that i am not. I've even lied about the truth to them saying that 'i was young and dumb and i've moved on', only to get them off my back. I am attracted to men, and only value women as 'friends'. I'm seriously scared. I pray to God that he will assist me through this. But hope is fading.


Followup about the crush I have on my old teacher

Dear, Rimma ! First of all thanks a billion for your wonderful and meaningful answer. Is was so worthful and touching. Regarding your queries about me. Here are some details about it: Well, Nobody knows in my family about my attraction towards male, only my best friend( who is of same age and straight) knows about this, but he never supports me and thinks that I'm a kind of mentally patient and I need a doctor. Another thing is I don't know any gay person in my home town nor any came out yet. Reading reaction of my family when they find their only son is gay or bi may put them in jeopardy or say my parents will collapse so i cant come out. When i was in 8th grade he was teaching me, now he is no more my teacher. The thing which attracts me towards him is, personality and nature. the only inappropriate thing he had done with me was, pinching me on my stomach and try to rube my body. He was behaving rudely with me, but now a days we are living in different towns so i cant meet him.


I have a few problems and I want someone to ...

Dear Experts, I have a few problems and I want someone to listen me and give me some advises. I'm going to high and I'm only 15. The first problem that I have is that "loneliness". At school I have only 1 friend but she not my close friend. I don't have ANY friends. A saw my friend's friend she didn't even say hi to me. I used to be friends with some girls or boys and now they don't even talk to me. I'm so alone nobody talks to me in the school. At home my mom always insults me she always calls me "fat,ugly,nasty". One time I was at home and my notebook accidentally fell and my father hit me. My mom hits me too, from one small thing she hits me. I don't think my parents love me. I'm so alone at home and school. I have no friends. My parents hates me. I feel so empty. I don't want to go outside or do anything. I'm so depressed. I have a lot of problems and it so hard to deal with them. I think I might suffer from "depression. What should I do? Please help me. Thank you