Tag: Health



I have a testosterone problem, how concerned should I be ...

I have always had gender dysphoria to a large extent and have many anomalies from VATER Association. I had my testosterone levels checked in June of 2009 (bioavailable...the better test) and on a scale of 47 - 244 I was at 77. I had it checked in June of this year and it had dropped down to 46. I was started on testosterone replacement therapy 8 weeks ago and I was tested yesterday and now I am down to 28. How concerned should I be? Does this indicate a problem with my pituitary gland?




How long must I live as a woman before I ...

hi, i was wondering if you have to live as a woman for so long before you could take female hormones? or can you take the hormones at the same time as your living full time as a woman?? or would the therapist tell me i have to live as a woman full time first before i can start the hormone treatment? please help me as im not sure what to expect .... nalaliee .



I had a traumatic experience with a man. Now I ...

Hey! I've been put through so many difficult times in my teenage years. Even though i'm still a teenager, I feel as though i've lost my true identity. I am a Muslim and i'm very proud to be, even though the world has degraded my religion in many terrorist aspects. I'm very close to my religion and don't want to lose it. But two years ago *when i was 16* I had a secret boyfriend, to which he was 20 at the time. He took advantage of me in all sexual aspects and basically destroyed my mental and physical wellbeing. I ended up telling my parents as i collapsed one night from everything that he did to me. I eventually exposed the truth of me being 'gay'. Ever since then my family has tried to convince me that i am not. I've even lied about the truth to them saying that 'i was young and dumb and i've moved on', only to get them off my back. I am attracted to men, and only value women as 'friends'. I'm seriously scared. I pray to God that he will assist me through this. But hope is fading.



Followup about the crush I have on my old teacher

Dear, Rimma ! First of all thanks a billion for your wonderful and meaningful answer. Is was so worthful and touching. Regarding your queries about me. Here are some details about it: Well, Nobody knows in my family about my attraction towards male, only my best friend( who is of same age and straight) knows about this, but he never supports me and thinks that I'm a kind of mentally patient and I need a doctor. Another thing is I don't know any gay person in my home town nor any came out yet. Reading reaction of my family when they find their only son is gay or bi may put them in jeopardy or say my parents will collapse so i cant come out. When i was in 8th grade he was teaching me, now he is no more my teacher. The thing which attracts me towards him is, personality and nature. the only inappropriate thing he had done with me was, pinching me on my stomach and try to rube my body. He was behaving rudely with me, but now a days we are living in different towns so i cant meet him.



I feel alienated. How can I meet others in the ...

I chatted with an online gay friend for a few months and got quite emotionally attached to her till she said she was “tired” of me and wanted to leave. It took me some time to get over it. I have reached out to online LGBT communities within my country but haven't thought about meeting anyone. I don't really have any friends at college. I had to come out to a girl I had a huge crush on and she took it well but avoids talking about it. We do chat and that makes me feel better but, of late, her boyfriend has been sticking around her all the time and she doesn't even notice me. And this guy keeps despising me. I keep feeling like a loser. I can't even stop talking to her. My parents are too conservative. They ask if something has been bothering me and I have no answer. They dont even think that I can have problems in life unrelated to my studies. Homosexuality is illegal here and I feel as if I've got no future. I feel depressed and alienated from everyone. How do I get on with life?



I feel I’ve wronged my parents by being gay

I am gay and I feel as if I've seriously wronged my parents. I never had any religious issues surrounding my self acceptance. Though I always felt that I should forget that I am gay, at least for a few years until I am financially independent. My parents are too conservative. They don't even expect me to date a guy before I marry...so, dating a girl and living with her, especially when homosexuality is illegal here and the society so rigidly patriarchal...they would think that its more of a mistake that should be corrected. And, right now I feel so unsure about my own life, both personally and professionally, that it grips me in guilt. I know that my parents have done so much for me, and by being gay, I've already put aside many of their expectations. I work really hard at my academics, but if my score falls below their hopes from me, that makes me feel twice as bad. I want to focus on what's important for me, but I don't know how to get my mind off all this?