i am 19. never before this year did i identify as a homosexual nor a heterosexual. last year my best friend fell in love with a woman...we spent a great deal of our time opening, exploring & trying to understand our sexualities, beginning it with her love for this woman. It forced me to look at mine in a new way & I discovered that I was gay too. my friends g/f has become my other close friend. they have a better grip on their sexuality while I still get too uncomfortable to come out to them. im not as sure as they are. the past 6 mnths, having identified myself as a lesbian to me only, have been so wonderful but sometimes, i am unsure. It all happend so fast that sometimes I doubt my understanding. for 6 years, i haven't labeled my sexuality, it just was. good or bad. I miss that. Now everything i do, i do as a lesbian. it puts a whole new twist on everything i do. am i too homophobic to love this me that is undeniably happier or could i really be "going through a phase" as they say?