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I’m not into stereotypical gay men – I want male ...

I am gay and out for over 6 years now. I have never had a relationship, but I crave the intimacy and companionship. Gay men don't interest me. I don't, for the most part, find them attractive emotionally or sexually (as opposed to physically). I do find the idea of straight men much more appealing. -NOT- because its wanting something I can't have, but because I see them as "true men". I see gay men (myself included, and many see me as 'butch'), as having emotional structures more similar to women and it is just more apparent in some (Think about stereotypes of gays and lesbians). So I find it difficult to be attracted to what I see as "female" energy. I want male energy. I also don't have -any- desire for anal sex either way. I do like giving oral sex though, but never really had a 'passionate' sexual encounter. I feel very lost and different to most gay guys. It is distressing that I have little to no libido at my age, plus my disinterest in gay men. What can I do?


I’m a very confused boi – is it wrong to ...

I'm 15 going on 16, and I'm just, confused about stuff. I thought I had it figured out. I like girls, I'm a girl, so I'm gay. Fantastic. I'm kinda girly but I love being called a guy and dressing masculine. I thought about being male but I want to stay female. I want to identify as female but go by some unisex name that could be either gender. I tell people I'm a boi (not boy) but they don't care. And I go to an all girls private school. Is it wrong to want to be both genders? I don't want to not be a female anymore; I feel that I'm more of the female side than male. But, there's something so appeasing about being a guy. I've even considered staying a girl and getting a surgery for a masculine chest because I don't like my breasts (they're big). I'm just so unsure and I can't seem to find people to relate to. What's wrong with me? And now I may even like guys again? Just what's going on? -Shadow/Jen


I feel lost about my sexuality

I have been struggling with my sexuality for some time now. I sometimes find myself very physically attracted to women but I have never been emotionally attracted to them. This sexual attraction comes and goes. I am not really sexually attracted to men but will get crushes on them and be happy to be with them and feel my heart flutter when I am around them. However when i think about going further and having sex with them I get nervous, and worry that i won't like it. But I don't have an interest in having sex with women either. I am very lost right now please help.



How can I tell my family and friends about being ...

I have been out as bisexual for over a year now, and I am perfectly comfortable with that. However, there's more to it that I haven't been completely honest about, I am transgendered, I have felt like a female since I was a child, I remember always feeling more inclined to tkae on the female role in everything rather than the male. I am pretty sure that within the next three years I will begin my transition, just as soon as I raise the money, but I just am so afraid to tell all my friends and especially my parents, everyone already accepts my bisexuality and has no problem with it, however I don't think they will be as open to my transsexuality. How do I tell my friends and partents that I am transgendered without losing them?