I might be ftm transexual
This might seem like an odd question. I am currently female and present as female. However, I like women and I am very masculine yet feminine in some ways. I pass as a male at times. I have watched numerous FTM videos on YouTube and am starting to perhaps realise I may be ftm transexual. Being painfully shy I feel restricted and too shy to tell everyone. I would love to live as male but I think I fear transitioning because of family/friends and societys views. I am perceived as a straight female to most people but my family ( who know my ideas of transitioning ). I feel stressed about this. I’m not sure if it’s the trapped feeling I feel or the fear of transitioning and my loss of my feeling of being accepted as noone knows. Let me know what you think. Thanks
Thank you for your question.
If I understand your question correctly, you are trying to define your gender identity and how it relates to those around you. You seem to be quite far along in the process of deciding for yourself what your gender identity is. I congratulate you for this. It is certainly not an easy journey for anybody and is often filled with many strong emotions and many questions. It also seems that you have been able to be open about your feelings with your family. This is important as well. It is a step towards being accepted by others as you really are.
And if your family is supportive, they can be great allies in helping you along on your journey. Here are a few, perhaps though-provoking, questions, that you may want to ask yourself: (1) how do you see yourself as a person? (2) what part does gender identity play in defining you as a person? What things about you (your personality, your interests) are the same, no matter how you present? (3) what do you think your friends’ reaction will be when they learn? (4) what is the worst possible reaction that you can imagine? How would you deal with it? (5) what about the most positive reaction that you can imagine? How would it make you feel? (5) Can you think of one friend with whom you think you may share some of your thoughts and feelings about your gender identity and transitioning?
You may start by speaking to one friend and seeing his or her reaction. Alternatively, you can check out some of the online trans communities — you may find support, ideas, and perhaps even friends on forums there (see https://alterheros.com/english/network/ for a list of mostly North American organisations). On-line forums may be a less threatening environment to share your feelings on transitioning and gender identity.
I hope this helps. Please do write in if you have any other questions.
Rimma, for Alterheros.