I feel I’ve wronged my parents by being gay

Dear Andy,

What is more important to you…to live your life or that of your parents? You are still young and many other issues will invade your mind that will require you to pause and think,What do I want? Am I doing this for myself or to please someone else? Do NOT loose focus on what your needs are…your health and happiness. Would you be willing to risk everything to be who you are or are going to be? You may not know who thiat person is right now but that person is inside you waiting to come out? No pun intended. Sometimes we think we know and we are so far off and other times we feel lost and yet there is that quiet confidence directing us underneath it all. Have faith in yourself.

Your life from now on will not be the same as it was in the past. It will continue to change and mutate as you grow older and gain new experiences. Your dynamics with your parents, your social environment, your friends will change. For better or worse. The only path that will guide you is acceptance. It may be a rough journey but stay true to yourself and it will be alright. With or without the acceptance of your parents. Understand that they may or may not understand. Don’t fight it. It will be what it will be. You aren’t alone fighting this battle. You will never be alone. Always remember that, no matter how lonely it might get. Be you.


for Alterheros

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Depuis 2002, AlterHéros répond à vos questions en ligne au sujet de la diversité sexuelle, de la pluralité des genres et de la santé sexuelle en général. Nous organisons aussi des activités pour les jeunes LGBTQIA2S+ de 14 à 30 ans et leurs allié.e.s.

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