Category: Transidentities


I’m looking for youth trans resources in Montreal.

I’m a gender and sexualities educator for youth, and I was recently asked a couple of questions about Montreal resources that stumped me. One participant asked if I knew of any trans-friendly family doctors located in the West Island. Do you know of any resource lists of health professionals that I can direct them towards? Another question was regarding youth-friendly sexual assault support group resources (and ideally LGBTQ2+ friendly as well!) – I initially referred them to SACOMSS but I’m wondering if there’s another one that might be specifically targeted towards youth?


I imagine myself as a lesbian – am I transsexual?

Hey, I'm  a 15 year old male and I'm really confused. I have always considered myself a normal boy, as a kid I liked playing with action figures and plastic army men. I have always been moderately masculine, and I'm comfortable with my gender. I've never had any homosexual thoughts. However, when I fantasize, nothing is as pleasuring to me as imagining that I am a lesbian, usually the one being dominated. I do get aroused by boy/girl fantasies (As long as I'm the boy, rather than some stranger). I don't have any desire to dress in womens clothing, but I did once when I was a kid. I'm comfortable with my body. The only problem is that I fantasize about being a lesbian. Am I transsexual? Thanks for the help. P.S Holy crap is there something wrong with the validation code? It took my like 30 tries to get it right.


My boyfriend wants to change gender, and I am uncomfortable ...

I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 24. He wants to change gender and he knows I'm bisexual. I tried to support him but I'm uncomfortable with this. Also, he was in a long-distance relationship and I'm pretty sure that he didn't break-up with this girl, because she is still sending him gifts and love messages. He knows I am in love with him and I'm scared he's using me. He has a lot of people who want to be with him and he never tells them that he has a girlfriend.



I would like to know about resources for transgender individuals ...

Okay so now that I am out to myself about being transgender, I was hoping you guys could tell me some names of support groups. I know you guys are in Montreal which sucks because I live in Hamilton, Ontario. So I was wondering if you knew any support groups in that area or Stoney Creek, Ontario. I'm having trouble finding them. Thanks for your help.



I like to cross-dress as a female, does this make ...

Much like a question I saw on your site, I like to crossdress in private & wish I was female. I love looking at the female body but wish I was one. When I crossdress I pretend I'm with a man and I masturbate. When I have sex with a woman I fantasize about being her or that I'm a woman & she's a man. I've been with lots of women but feel I'm more inclined to want to be a woman. I'm not sure if I'm gay because men do nothing for me unless I'm dressed & fantasizing about being a woman. But I know most women will not accept me as I am so should I date men? Am I a homosexual? I'm very confused right now. I have a daughter and a very religious family so I can't be a full time crossdresser.



I am androgynous and pansexual, but how do I communicate ...

Not to long ago I discovered that I was androgynous which was honestly the happiest day of my life. I've never felt so good to understand who I am. I'm also pansexual. But not a lot of people are familiar with these terms. A lot of people seem to blindly say things against who I am. I don't blame them for not knowing about androygnous but I do still hurt when they use words like daugther or girls or boys. I mean why must I choose a side? I just don't know how to get people to understand exactly what I mean. It's so hard to explain to them why I'm androygnous. I mean I didn't choose to be it I just chose to accept it and now I must try and and live with it and get by with all these questions like "please check male or female for your gender" I mean what do I pick? I'm reminded every time I sign up for something or even when I'm shopping in both "men" and "women" sides of the store. I don't know what to do anymore? How do I make this huge part of me known?!


I am unsure of my gender identity

I am unsure of my gender identity. I have always felt more feminine than masculine and I used to crossdress. After a while I stopped and I haven't dressed in female clothes or worn makeup in many months but in the back of my mind I think I really do want to be feminine, every day, all day. All of my friends are girls and I feel most of the time like I'm just one of the girls. Are these symptoms of transsexuality or is could I just be a crossdresser? And would you recommend I talk to a professional about my feelings?


I am a 12-year-old who does not want to be ...

Hi. I am a 12-year-old female that does not want to be female, but is not yet aware of any sexual attractions. I realize I'm a bit young, but this has been troubling me for 2 years now, ever since I got my first period. There is this boy at school that I might like, but I'm not really sure, and I don't really think I am in love with him for some reason. But, I have also found that when I think of having a relationship with someone, I see myself as a man with a woman. I have told my parents that I believe myself to be a transsexual. I am beginning to have suicidal thoughts, and I want to stop them before they get to a extremely serious stage. I wanted to know if there are any support groups in California, and if you can provide any help as to how I can survive like this. I really need help before I try to hurt myself, because right now, that seems the only answer, but I know it's not what I'm supposed to do. Please help me.



Having a Trans Child – Advice to Parents

My daughter is trans - she transitioned in her late teens. This is a very brief resume of some of the stresses and practical problems facing a family with such a child, who may still be at school or college, and is probably still living at home.