Category: Sexual and romantic orientation


How to make him discover that I am gay ?

Alright so I'll be pretty straight forward. I really like this guy, and I've liked him for a long time now. I've recently "come out" to most people, but it's not information that I just pass around to everyone. So: 1. How do I let this guy know, or find out if he already knows, that I'm gay? At least it would be a start if I could let him know that I'm gay and see what happens from there. What I'm trying to say is how do I start a conversation like that? I see him pretty often in some of my classes and we usually sit next to each other and whatever, but how do I be subtle in letting someone (whos maybe wondering?) know that I'm gay! 2.What the heck do I say afterwards?! I want him to know that I like him, but I'm not always that good at being so straight forward about something like that . Thanks! -Cool Bean


Is it unusual to start being attracted by same-sex in ...

I\'m a 35 year old man who has recently discovered that I\'m bisexual. Before this, I thought of myself as hetero: totally into women, not into men. However, as I\'m continuing my spiritual and self-discovery journey, I find I am attracted to men, when I never have been before. Are there other people who have discovered they\'re bisexual in their mid 30\'s? Is this an unusual time to be making this discovery?


I am aroused by pictures of female genitals, is it ...

I’ve considered myself heterosexual all my life.I had and still have romantic and sexual attraction towards particular men.However, there is one thing that is haunting me, namely I am able to be genitally aroused by the pictures of both male and female genitals.I began to masturbate when I was 5 or 6. When I was 8 or 9, I used to masturbate while looking at playboy pics, which was the only sexual thing in my environment at that time. I remember I used to fantasize about myself being one of those women posing for men; these fantasies accompanied masturbation as well. Now, as I am older, I don't react in that way anymore.However, I noticed that I am still able to be aroused by the pictures of female genitals. I tried to imagine myself having sex with a woman, but it simply doesn't appeal to me. Am I bisexual because of this arousal? Can I still name myself heterosexual? Or maybe it arouses me because I associate it with oral sex performed on woman(I'm virgin and use porn to masturbate)?




Our parents caught us kissing and now I have to ...

I've always been a bit of a tomboy, but my parents would never let me do the things I wanted- the only sports they would let me play were the 'girly' ones- figure skating, ringette, soccer, cheerleading, ballet, gymnastics, etc. I guess maybe they figured something out about me at five that it took me years to realize: I'm gay. (My hands are shaking just typing that) I have a girlfriend, the most beautiful, awesome, smart, funny girl in the world. I love her. Nobody knew about us until yesterday, when her mother caught us kissing when we thought nobody was home. We're no longer allowed to see each other and my parents are sending me to Catholic school, because apparently 'this would never have happened in a Catholic school'. They're really, really, really angry. I'm- so many things. I'm terrified, I'm scared, I'm angry, I'm confused, and I'm really depressed. I just want to die, or run away from home and leave this hick town forever. I don't know what to do. Please help.


Men: I’m attracted to everything above the waist only

I am somewhat confused at the moment. I have never considered myself a homosexual man, and I still don't. I have never had romantic feelings toward men, but have found myself attracted to them before. Like, I will see someone and find them attractive. However, I'm the same way with women. However, I have had romantic feelings towards them. I am in high school, and have had several crushes throughout my life. I've never actually had a girlfriend, but I'm still a freshman. I have found myself attracted to guys, but I don't want to see their dicks. What I have seen (from movies, porn, whatever) doesn't turn me on, and never has. However, I've been attracted to pretty much everything above the waist. Does that make sense? I'm seriously confused. Am I gay, bisexual, what? I don't feel romantically attracted to guys, but I don't mind when a pyschically fit guy is shirtless or whatever. I don't like the male penis, and would not get on my knees and suck it. I know that's...



I’m confused by my dreams and if they mean that ...

I am 19 year old female, and I am really confused about my sexual orientation. I do not feel attracted to neither boys nor girls, but I am fine when I see two women involved in a sex relationship. When I think about men I do not feel like beign touched by them. All this things really uptset me, because I think that it is not supossed to be like that. Since I am 15 years old I have dreams having sex with boys and girls, but I can not see their faces; and I do not like these dreams because I do not want to dream like that, and most of the time I am scared to fall slept because of it. I do not know if all these dreams and the way a feel makes me a lesbian or bi. I would like to say, that I have never been involved in a relationship with any gender. I hope you can help me understand what is going on. Do I need a therapist ? if yes, please tell me where to call to. Thank you so much


What if he tells my secret if I tell him ...

I'm a boy and I learned last year that I was bisexual, although I am more attracted to guys. I want to ask a certain guy to know whether or not he is homo/bisexual but i can't find a way to ask him. If I do ask him whether or not he is, and learn he is heterosexual, he might make my "little secret" public. I need to find a way to ask him without that happening, so do you have any advice ?


I hate that I am attracted to men…

When i was first entering puberty i was heterosexual and had fasination with the female body. Then around the age of 10 that fascination switched to men and it has been that way ever since, reason unknown. I grew up hating that I was attracted to men and a part of me still hates the 'gay' me. Recently I began accepting the fact that I could be gay, and both friends and family has been very supportive of my desicion. However even now I don't know what i am. I am physically attracted to males but emotionally attracted to females. I find this rift grows when I add in the fact that I want kids, I want to offer a life what my mom AND dad gave me. I want to continue my own flesh and blood with a wife I love but I'm scared that I will be unfaithful and go back to guys, because I'm more attracked to them physically. I tried boyfriends but they just turn to sexual flings and most guys a meet are TOO gay for my liking, however there have been possible relationships. I feel so torn!



I want to be a lesbian, but I am unsure ...

I'm an 18yo girl who is very confused about her sexuality - I have gone from thinking I was straight, to gay, to bi and now I just don't know. Currently, I really really like this guy but I am not sexually attracted to him. At the same time, I really like this girl and I am sexually attracted to her. I have never found myself sexually attracted to guys, only girls, but my childhood crushes (until I was about 13) were all on guys. Also, this guy is the only guy I have ever really liked, as in, I think I could actually love him, I have otherwise lost interest in guys, but for some reason, I want them to like me and I sometimes get nervous when in close proximity to them. What does all this mean? This might be odd, but I actually want to be a lesbian, not bi or straight, but I'm not sure why. Is it possible to be emotionally attracted to both genders but sexually attracted to one? If this was true for me, am I still technically a lesbian (that's how I would prefer to identify)?