Category: Romantic relationships


What if I stay in this relationship for the rest ...

I've been in a relationship with a queer female person for a year now. I've never been in any other relationship. We're in a very happy and healthy relationship together. But, I'm worried about the future. What if I stay in this relationship for the rest of my life, and never have any experiences with other people, or with people of other genders? I feel badly for thinking this way, but the both of us starting CEGEP has me thinking of my future. My partner and I talk about everything, but I don't want her to feel like I don't want to be with her by telling her this. Though they're very supportive of my queerness, my parents might like the idea of me "trying a relationship with a boy too", so I feel like they aren't the best people to ask. And I have no queer adults in my life to look up to who. I don't know what I should do or who I should talk to.


My husband is obsessed with anal penetration and he wants ...

I've been married one year and with my spouse for 4 years. He has cross-dressing fetishes which are fine by me. He has not shared this with anyone else, only myself. Wigs, pantyhose, underwear..... It's all ok with me. He also likes anal penetration. Lately it has become an obsession of his. Over the past 8 months we have had problems because he emails and texts other men about his fantasies (that meets via Craigslist) and uses that to stimulate himself while he's dressed and masterbating. We came to agreement that he would not use other people but would allow me to please him. Now he wants to have a 3some with me and another man. I'm not comfortable with that so he just wants to go out and have sex with a man, alone. He says it's fair because he had offered to let me play a part in it. I find it as cheating and being unloyal. Ive offered to play with him just us two but he says it's not the same, it must be a guy. What can I do?


How do I tell him I have a crush on ...

So I'm gay and I met this guy I knew is gay here in college. During our free time before classes started we hung out practically every day, and to this day we hang out as much as we can but with a couple of other friends. But ever since then I've had the biggest crush on him. He recently came out to us (even though he didn't know I already knew), but I don't know if he knows that I am. There has been many occasions were I've planed to tell him about my crush. Now I feel that it is the time but certain emotions keep me from telling him this. I am thinking the next time I get to hang out with him alone to confess ... but I need someones help.



My husband has had same sex intercourse and cross-dresses- should ...

Hi, I have been married for 4 years. Early in my marriage my husband shared with me that he had had same sex intercourse. I didn't know what to do. In my culture that is called"gay" no matter if later on you are married. I seeked help and they recommended a divorce. I love him so much that I didn't and to make it better he told me it was just a test to see what would I do. Yesterday he told me again that it was true. He did have same sex intercouse more than once and he liked it. He also likes to put things in his rectum when he masturbates. Also, he says that he doesn't like guys because they are gross and that is wrong. However, he wants me to wear a strap-on to see if I like it. He also wants to dress like a girl, wears my underwear and shaves like a girl. I think this is too much but I love him. I want to be with him. I don't know if wanting to be with him is wrong. What should I do? I am really confused.


My boyfriend wants to change gender, and I am uncomfortable ...

I'm 18 years old and my boyfriend is 24. He wants to change gender and he knows I'm bisexual. I tried to support him but I'm uncomfortable with this. Also, he was in a long-distance relationship and I'm pretty sure that he didn't break-up with this girl, because she is still sending him gifts and love messages. He knows I am in love with him and I'm scared he's using me. He has a lot of people who want to be with him and he never tells them that he has a girlfriend.


I have a crush on my coworker but she wants ...

I have a crush on my coworker but I found out from her that she likes her ex's best friend and he likes her back and that she's going through some problems with her ex about this. When I confessed my feelings to her, she said that she was really sorry and didn't know what to say. She also told me that she doesn't know me long enough to say whether I'm her type or not and that I was a really cool and understanding person. Then she asked me if we could be good friends or not. When I told her that we'll see, she goes ' You cant be friends with someone you like?'. I told her that I'll be around if she wants to talk or take things off her mind. Now the thing is, my friend told me if she only talks about herself for the next few weeks or doesn't ask me to hang out then I should ditch her because it'll be clear that she's using me. I agree with him but I would also like your opinion on this as well. Is she trying to make use of me or is she trying to scrape out who I really am?



I am interested in a woman who is already involved ...

I am a 50 yr old lesbian. I am a Christian church leader. I met a young woman at church who is also a lesbian. She is 26 years old. She is in a long-distance relationship with her partner of several years. She lives here and intends to stay here. Her partner keeps promising to move here too but is running a business in another country and makes excuses about coming here. Although I know she is in an long-distance relationship, we spend a lot of time together recently. She is beautiful, brilliant, funny, everything I would want in a partner but she is taken. She knows I really like her and initially she said that the Bible says we should not take our friendship any further (and I agreed) but she is always texting me, calls me, came to my home to watch movies with me, went on a "date" with me to see a movie, runs errands for me, always blushes when I tease her, has agreed to go away with me to the mountains for a weekend as "friends". I know I should stop, I know better but I love being with her and she obviously likes me.


I am heartbroken – girl in love with a gay ...

I am totally and completely in love with a gay guy. When I met him he was bisexual and I dated him for 2 and a half years... I love him so much, he is the only person that can make my heart beat faster and slower at the same time... We prioritized each other in everything..... and I have so many memories... We were best friends who have been through everything but my heart is ripped and can't be healed. Now that we're not together anymore, I shall never love again. He was perfect. I love Zak and I have to accept everything, it's hard and I have been through more than anyone I know. People ask me how can I love him, but no one will ever know him the way I know him... Hopefully I will get help from you. I can't get him out of my mind, I'm hopelessly in love. Any advice would be welcome. Please I feel my heart died. What can I do????


I am not in the mood for sex since my ...

Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years now. We are both 21 years old. I had my daughter almost 3 and 1/2 years ago. Our sex life was great before that, then my boyfriend had sex with another girl behind my back over several months. I know he is truly sorry for what he has done. It is painful for me to have intercourse and it seems like I am never in the mood. The affair took place 3 years ago. we are finding it very hard to get back on track with this problem. I never feel in the mood for sex and seem to carry on without it fine. However I know at 21 I should not feel this way. I just wondered if you had any advice for me. Many thanks.



I have a boyfriend but I am Muslim and cannot ...

My question is simple, but hard. As you can see I am from an Islamic country & so I can't have a boyfriend. But I still do and I love him. Me & my BF met online and have been together for a year. But because I am muslim I am not allowed to go out without my family, & on top of that, I don't have a mobile phone. So I've never seen my BF for the past year, & I only talked to him maybe 10 times from my friend's mobile. I can't go out with my friends either so there's no chance of seeing him. I feel like he's sick of me. What should I do?