Category: Love and interpersonnal relationships


Does my teacher have a crush on me?

Does a teacher have a crush on me too? Why does he always look at me? Long story short, I had a teacher last year and I have a crush on him. Never planned on acting on it, but I got threatened to confess and I felt really scared and pressured so I wrote a note. Anyways he keeps looking at me and it's been happening a couple of months now. I thought it was because he hated me for what I've done, but wouldn't he want to ignore me and try to forget about me? What's weird was once after school, I was walking to my bus stop for art class and we were walking the same way. Since he's a fast walker, he walked in front of me, but he kept looking behind at me. He did it maybe 4 or 5 times. Another case was when I was talking to my friends one time after school and sort of just looked at my direction for a good 2 - 5 minutes. I didn't know he was there until my friend told me quietly and I tried to stay calm and continue talking. Whenever he walks past my roll call (basically everyday), instead of looking straight ahead to walk to his class, he would look into my roll call class and look at me. If we're still lining up as he walks past he would look still. It's not like 'I'm looking at him so that's why he's looking at me because it's not'. but many times I didn't look at him, my friends would tell me he was when he's gone. I honestly don't believe he has a crush on me, but some for my friends said there's a chance and now I'm just curious ALDA


How to use gender neutral grammar in French?

Hi. First off, I love that this site exists:) I work at a middle school. Some of the french teachers have asked me how to use gender neutral grammar in french. There are some pronouns we know about, like ielle, or lelle. And one french teacher told me she's seen some gender neutral spelling of some subjects. But when it comes to making a full sentence, with adjectives, verbes... no one seems to have found a resource that explains making the whole sentence flow together, and how to conjugate all of the words together. My pronouns are They/ Them/ Their . When I have to write a report, and it needs to be in 3rd person, I use a capital for Them to indicate it refers to me, and not a group of people. It doesn't seem as simple for french. I also don't speak much french, so I don't even know what questions to ask to find out how to do it. Here are the resources the teachers showed me that they looked at. They also asked friends who work in the government, how they have seen this addressed, and didn't get very far... http://justicetrans.org/ https://www.conseil-lgbt.ca/ https://www.conseil-lgbt.ca/ressources/#repertoire Thank you so much. Have a fantastic day!


Are you aware of any organizations in Montreal related to ...

Hi I know this question may appear on your question page but ask if possible to remove my name :) I'm an Addictions Youth Counsellor in Montreal, I'm writing because I have a bit of a dilemma. Our Youth Counsellor team has been requested to lead a youth group for one of the organizations we work with, and they asked us to create a "boys and girls" group, which is problematic and exclusionary. We are now brainstorming ways to create a more inclusive group and recognize that some of our clients are currently experiencing bullying by peers in relation to gender identity and sexual/romantic orientation. As well, we have the added difficulty of having to offer this service online, which complicates our ability to insure a safe & confidential space. So my main question is: are you aware of any organizations that would be willing to help us navigated or offer resources on creating a youth group that is more inclusive but still mainly focused on issues related to addiction and mental health? Any resources or suggestions would be much appreciated!




What if I stay in this relationship for the rest ...

I've been in a relationship with a queer female person for a year now. I've never been in any other relationship. We're in a very happy and healthy relationship together. But, I'm worried about the future. What if I stay in this relationship for the rest of my life, and never have any experiences with other people, or with people of other genders? I feel badly for thinking this way, but the both of us starting CEGEP has me thinking of my future. My partner and I talk about everything, but I don't want her to feel like I don't want to be with her by telling her this. Though they're very supportive of my queerness, my parents might like the idea of me "trying a relationship with a boy too", so I feel like they aren't the best people to ask. And I have no queer adults in my life to look up to who. I don't know what I should do or who I should talk to.


I want to find my way to a safe(r) country ...

Hello .  My name is S. am 23 years old , I’m from Morocco , I live in Rabat with my family I am student at university. I am a lesbian. I live in Morocco. My country, Morocco. Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) in Morocco face legal and social challenges that other heterosexuals do not face. Sexual activity between men and women is illegal in Morocco. People from the gay community face stigma among the population. Likewise, homes in which homosexual partners live do not qualify for the same legal protection available for heterosexual couples, with several reports of a high level of discrimination and violations against the gay community. Whereas the legality of same-sex sexual activity is criminalized in Article 489 of the Moroccan Criminal Code, meaning "obscene or abnormal work with a person of the same sex". Therefore, homosexual activity is illegal in Morocco, and its perpetrator can be punished with imprisonment from 6 months to 3 years with a fine of between 120 and 1,200 Moroccan dirhams. The Moroccan government uses the law as a way for police officers to restrict the gay community. When someone is arrested in Morocco for a homosexual act, his name will be announced in the newspapers regardless of whether or not he is really gay. However, the law is applied sporadically by the authorities, as of today (02/22/2020), no president, minister or leader of a political party has published public statements talking about gay rights in Morocco, and no legislation has been enacted to protect them from violence And discrimination or the preservation of their rights, so the government's attitudes toward homosexuality tend to be in the interest of protecting the country's traditions, in line with traditional culture and the vision of religion in this matter. It should be noted that all books on the topics of homosexuality, sexual orientation or something similar are banned. Schools called for teaching a curriculum that "stresses ... the seriousness and corruption of" unnatural acts. "Moreover, on March 21, 2008, a statement was issued by the Moroccan Ministry of Interior, in which it revealed the full scope of the government's agenda by saying: "... preserving the morals of citizens and defending society against all irresponsible measures that could prejudice our identity and our culture." As for the foreign policy of the Moroccan government, it is proceeding in the same way that it pursues at home, as it did not participate in an international conference discussing gay issues and rights held in 2001, in addition to Morocco's absence from the United Nations conference on AIDS / HIV, and it also opposed the statement UN common denouncer of violence based on sexual orientation and gender identity. I cannot live in this country every day. I want to tell my friends about this. I fear that I will be imprisoned and everyone will hate me and try to kill me. I do not feel safe and I do not have rights. I had surgery because I carry the chromosome although I am a girl and everything looks like I My mom's only daughter who knows about it, I can't tell my story to anyone. My friends, I think that the process was that I had a problem with urination. I cannot tell them what I am suffering from. I have the documents and medical analysis that show all the facts * I want to find my way to a country where security and safety and live freely and recognize my identity and my rights and my dignity. I ask you to provide the necessary advice to you and all the steps that I must take. Please advise me please . S.



My husband is obsessed with anal penetration and he wants ...

I've been married one year and with my spouse for 4 years. He has cross-dressing fetishes which are fine by me. He has not shared this with anyone else, only myself. Wigs, pantyhose, underwear..... It's all ok with me. He also likes anal penetration. Lately it has become an obsession of his. Over the past 8 months we have had problems because he emails and texts other men about his fantasies (that meets via Craigslist) and uses that to stimulate himself while he's dressed and masterbating. We came to agreement that he would not use other people but would allow me to please him. Now he wants to have a 3some with me and another man. I'm not comfortable with that so he just wants to go out and have sex with a man, alone. He says it's fair because he had offered to let me play a part in it. I find it as cheating and being unloyal. Ive offered to play with him just us two but he says it's not the same, it must be a guy. What can I do?



Our parents caught us kissing and now I have to ...

I've always been a bit of a tomboy, but my parents would never let me do the things I wanted- the only sports they would let me play were the 'girly' ones- figure skating, ringette, soccer, cheerleading, ballet, gymnastics, etc. I guess maybe they figured something out about me at five that it took me years to realize: I'm gay. (My hands are shaking just typing that) I have a girlfriend, the most beautiful, awesome, smart, funny girl in the world. I love her. Nobody knew about us until yesterday, when her mother caught us kissing when we thought nobody was home. We're no longer allowed to see each other and my parents are sending me to Catholic school, because apparently 'this would never have happened in a Catholic school'. They're really, really, really angry. I'm- so many things. I'm terrified, I'm scared, I'm angry, I'm confused, and I'm really depressed. I just want to die, or run away from home and leave this hick town forever. I don't know what to do. Please help.



My friend and i like each other but now her ...

When I moved here from California, I didn't have many friends because I was quiet and my now best friend, Victoria, was one of the first people to befriend me. Over the past few years i've been become attrcted to her as more than a friend. I had let her know and we talked about and she said that she had been having the same feelings. The problem is that I had confronted her too late. She now has a boyfriend whom she says she loves very much, and I know I should be happy for her, but everytime I get near her, her boyfriend starts getting really physical and won' even let me hug her. I want to stay friends with her, but it hurts me to be around her when he's there. And he's ALWAYS there, so I never get a second alone to talk to her. I've always liked boys, never girls, so his is really hard for me and I'm afraid if I tell her what I think of her bf, she'll be mad at me and I really don't want to lose her.