Category: Gender identity


I’m non-binary and I want to know my sexual orientation…

Hi. I would like to know about my sexuality. When I was younger, and people thought I was a girl, I had crushes on only boys. Now, looking back, I'm not sure if the crushes were real, or if soceity - (did I spell that right?) and my family- pressured me into wanting to fake crushes so I could fit in with my female cousins and classmates. looking back, there were enormous signs of my omnigender identity lying there, just being ignored. the way I wanted to hang out with my boy cousins more than my female ones, the times I played wearing both a princess dress and a fake mustache, and the way I was so upset the night my mom was telling my sister about gender indentities, and when I told my mom I was non-binary after hearing that term, she told me I wasn't, which might have been one of the worst nights of my life. but enough about my gender. I'm positive of it now and I want to know my orientation. Later, just after I came out, I started having crushes on girls. I was madly in love with my best friend for awhile, but now I'm shipping her with my other friend, so I'm really over her. By then, (and still now) I find straight white cis boys repulsive (and other boys pretty bad as well.) which was the exact type of guy I used to crush on (or maybe not?) but here's the weirdest part. I was so crazy about this kid (who told everyone he was non-binary at the time) that I sent him a message, telling him I liked him, then as soon as he said he was actually a boy, I lost complete intrest in him. crazy, I know. Do they have a sexuality fluid orientation? Did I make up all my crushes exept the last one, to be accepted? these questions flood my mind. please help. Minijkrowling


Can trauma impact on gender identities?

Can trauma impact on gender identities because I feel more feminine during the day and masculine during the night but I realised years and years before I did feel masculine and feminine but there wasn’t a time where I would feel that, it was more random and kind of just there but now it’s becoming a time for my genders. I remember traumatic times happens at night from my mum when I use to live with her and that might’ve affected my masculinity to come out at night. Otherwise I’m unsure why I feel more masculine at night, why night, I’m still confused if my trauma isn’t the answer.




I’m having a bit of a gender crisis right now ...

I'm having a bit of a gender crisis right now. I use he/they pronouns, as they are what I identify with most, but I present female (wearing dresses, skirts, makeup etc.). I'm also comfortable with certain female terms (such as fangirl, queen, wife) but not others (specifically girlfriend or being referred to collectively as 'girls'). I'm AFAB and I'm wondering if there's a term for this? (If it is relevant, I believe I am attracted to all genders at varying degrees)





Could I get some guidance on how to proceed to ...

hey, hope all is well :). i have been out of canada for a few months and will be coming back in the next few months. it seems like i may be starting HRT where i currently am and will continue it in quebec when i am back. i am a quebec resident usually but for reasons had to be gone for a while. could i get some guidance on how to proceed to continue getting access to hormones once im back in the province if my original diagnosis/prescription was out of country/province? thanks a bunch! hugs, nat


I’ve been struggling with my gender identity… Is the want ...

I've been struggling with my gender identity for the past couple of months, though I feel like this has been an ongoing thing I never noticed until now. Every spare moment I have I'm questioning who I am, who I want to be, and who I want to be perceived as. The main issue is that I don't feel comfortable being seen as a girl anymore. I've tried using some different pronouns to see how I felt, and it was nice for a bit, but I realized there was still something missing. I think I'm still in a lot of denial over how what's missing is the fact that I want to be perceived as a boy, but I feel like I can't have that, because physically, it's logical that I'm not one. Plus, I'm scared of even considering transitioning, it feels like a huge step that I don't know if I'll ever be ready for. While most of the time I'm yearning to be a guy, there are a few times where I feel okay as a girl. It's just so confusing, and I don't want to stick with something and then regret it later. I also feel like, is the want to be a man a fetishization thing? Because when I see healthy and happy male relationships in books or shows, I feel a sense of happiness from it and can relate to it to an extent. Does that mean these feelings of dysphoria are based on that? Because while it's one thing to put yourself in another character's shoes, I feel like there's a bit more to these feelings than that. Any insight would be really appreciated! Bao




How to use gender neutral grammar in French?

Hi. First off, I love that this site exists:) I work at a middle school. Some of the french teachers have asked me how to use gender neutral grammar in french. There are some pronouns we know about, like ielle, or lelle. And one french teacher told me she's seen some gender neutral spelling of some subjects. But when it comes to making a full sentence, with adjectives, verbes... no one seems to have found a resource that explains making the whole sentence flow together, and how to conjugate all of the words together. My pronouns are They/ Them/ Their . When I have to write a report, and it needs to be in 3rd person, I use a capital for Them to indicate it refers to me, and not a group of people. It doesn't seem as simple for french. I also don't speak much french, so I don't even know what questions to ask to find out how to do it. Here are the resources the teachers showed me that they looked at. They also asked friends who work in the government, how they have seen this addressed, and didn't get very far... http://justicetrans.org/ https://www.conseil-lgbt.ca/ https://www.conseil-lgbt.ca/ressources/#repertoire Thank you so much. Have a fantastic day!