Category: Gender Fluid and non-binary


I’m non-binary and I want to know my sexual orientation…

Hi. I would like to know about my sexuality. When I was younger, and people thought I was a girl, I had crushes on only boys. Now, looking back, I'm not sure if the crushes were real, or if soceity - (did I spell that right?) and my family- pressured me into wanting to fake crushes so I could fit in with my female cousins and classmates. looking back, there were enormous signs of my omnigender identity lying there, just being ignored. the way I wanted to hang out with my boy cousins more than my female ones, the times I played wearing both a princess dress and a fake mustache, and the way I was so upset the night my mom was telling my sister about gender indentities, and when I told my mom I was non-binary after hearing that term, she told me I wasn't, which might have been one of the worst nights of my life. but enough about my gender. I'm positive of it now and I want to know my orientation. Later, just after I came out, I started having crushes on girls. I was madly in love with my best friend for awhile, but now I'm shipping her with my other friend, so I'm really over her. By then, (and still now) I find straight white cis boys repulsive (and other boys pretty bad as well.) which was the exact type of guy I used to crush on (or maybe not?) but here's the weirdest part. I was so crazy about this kid (who told everyone he was non-binary at the time) that I sent him a message, telling him I liked him, then as soon as he said he was actually a boy, I lost complete intrest in him. crazy, I know. Do they have a sexuality fluid orientation? Did I make up all my crushes exept the last one, to be accepted? these questions flood my mind. please help. Minijkrowling


Can trauma impact on gender identities?

Can trauma impact on gender identities because I feel more feminine during the day and masculine during the night but I realised years and years before I did feel masculine and feminine but there wasn’t a time where I would feel that, it was more random and kind of just there but now it’s becoming a time for my genders. I remember traumatic times happens at night from my mum when I use to live with her and that might’ve affected my masculinity to come out at night. Otherwise I’m unsure why I feel more masculine at night, why night, I’m still confused if my trauma isn’t the answer.


I’m having a bit of a gender crisis right now ...

I'm having a bit of a gender crisis right now. I use he/they pronouns, as they are what I identify with most, but I present female (wearing dresses, skirts, makeup etc.). I'm also comfortable with certain female terms (such as fangirl, queen, wife) but not others (specifically girlfriend or being referred to collectively as 'girls'). I'm AFAB and I'm wondering if there's a term for this? (If it is relevant, I believe I am attracted to all genders at varying degrees)




How to use gender neutral grammar in French?

Hi. First off, I love that this site exists:) I work at a middle school. Some of the french teachers have asked me how to use gender neutral grammar in french. There are some pronouns we know about, like ielle, or lelle. And one french teacher told me she's seen some gender neutral spelling of some subjects. But when it comes to making a full sentence, with adjectives, verbes... no one seems to have found a resource that explains making the whole sentence flow together, and how to conjugate all of the words together. My pronouns are They/ Them/ Their . When I have to write a report, and it needs to be in 3rd person, I use a capital for Them to indicate it refers to me, and not a group of people. It doesn't seem as simple for french. I also don't speak much french, so I don't even know what questions to ask to find out how to do it. Here are the resources the teachers showed me that they looked at. They also asked friends who work in the government, how they have seen this addressed, and didn't get very far... http://justicetrans.org/ https://www.conseil-lgbt.ca/ https://www.conseil-lgbt.ca/ressources/#repertoire Thank you so much. Have a fantastic day!


I was assigned Male at birth and I just don’t ...

Hi, I have talked to a Psychiatrist at Interligne saying I didn't feel right in my body. I was assigned Male at birth and I just don't feel male. I feel like I'm in the ''middle'' but leaning towards the feminine side which is my problem. I wish I could stare at myself in the mirror and not feel bad about how I look. I would love to look more feminine in all parts but this is not what I see. The person at Interligne told me to ''Grow hair, shave body, makeup, do my nails, etc.'' but I already do all that in my daily life and still not happy with my body/face. I just told the Social Worker I talk to about this ''problem'' that has existed for me for many years now and they sent me here. I have a family doctor which I don't feel comfortable telling all this and I don't know what to do, I am lost. A request has been submitted for me to meet a psychiatrist I think (It's not confirmed, the Social Worker is working on the demand) What should I do? Jae



I am androgynous and pansexual, but how do I communicate ...

Not to long ago I discovered that I was androgynous which was honestly the happiest day of my life. I've never felt so good to understand who I am. I'm also pansexual. But not a lot of people are familiar with these terms. A lot of people seem to blindly say things against who I am. I don't blame them for not knowing about androygnous but I do still hurt when they use words like daugther or girls or boys. I mean why must I choose a side? I just don't know how to get people to understand exactly what I mean. It's so hard to explain to them why I'm androygnous. I mean I didn't choose to be it I just chose to accept it and now I must try and and live with it and get by with all these questions like "please check male or female for your gender" I mean what do I pick? I'm reminded every time I sign up for something or even when I'm shopping in both "men" and "women" sides of the store. I don't know what to do anymore? How do I make this huge part of me known?!