Category: Friendship


How do I tell him I have a crush on ...

So I'm gay and I met this guy I knew is gay here in college. During our free time before classes started we hung out practically every day, and to this day we hang out as much as we can but with a couple of other friends. But ever since then I've had the biggest crush on him. He recently came out to us (even though he didn't know I already knew), but I don't know if he knows that I am. There has been many occasions were I've planed to tell him about my crush. Now I feel that it is the time but certain emotions keep me from telling him this. I am thinking the next time I get to hang out with him alone to confess ... but I need someones help.


What if he tells my secret if I tell him ...

I'm a boy and I learned last year that I was bisexual, although I am more attracted to guys. I want to ask a certain guy to know whether or not he is homo/bisexual but i can't find a way to ask him. If I do ask him whether or not he is, and learn he is heterosexual, he might make my "little secret" public. I need to find a way to ask him without that happening, so do you have any advice ?


I’m scare of ruining my frindship with him…

I'm a female,17, and a senior. I've known Sean since I was 10. He'll be 16 soon. We met at his family's church. I was almost fourteen when I began to like him. Then I stopped going to church for a couple years; we still talked on the phone but we werent as close. I came back last year, and now were best friends again. We hang out pretty often now, although he lives in the next town over. I still spend the night at his house. I thought I could get over the feelings I had for him but they're even stronger now. His older sister even said to us one day, "You're so pretty Ashley. Why don't you and Sean get together? People keep making comments like this and the only way I can respond is by saying it'd be too weird b/c he's like my brother. I've never even been kissed let alone had a boyfriend. Im scared of ruining our friendship and I know everyone will be involved b/c his family is huge and the church is small. With college next year im moving(still in Ca) & i dont know what to do...



I have a crush on my coworker but she wants ...

I have a crush on my coworker but I found out from her that she likes her ex's best friend and he likes her back and that she's going through some problems with her ex about this. When I confessed my feelings to her, she said that she was really sorry and didn't know what to say. She also told me that she doesn't know me long enough to say whether I'm her type or not and that I was a really cool and understanding person. Then she asked me if we could be good friends or not. When I told her that we'll see, she goes ' You cant be friends with someone you like?'. I told her that I'll be around if she wants to talk or take things off her mind. Now the thing is, my friend told me if she only talks about herself for the next few weeks or doesn't ask me to hang out then I should ditch her because it'll be clear that she's using me. I agree with him but I would also like your opinion on this as well. Is she trying to make use of me or is she trying to scrape out who I really am?


My friend is acting moody with me since I expressed ...

Recently I became paranoid that my boyfriend, who is really good friends with one of my best friends, would start to want to be with her instead of me. I told them both that I felt threatened and my boyfriend understood and reassured me that they were only friends and could never be anything more because of the way they interacted. I trust them both and I believe them. Anyway, a few days after I spoke to them about how I felt and got it resolved, my friend brought it up again and started to act really moody with me. She said that she felt like I didn't trust her anymore but I do! I wasn't sure why because she doesn't really have much to do with the matter apart from being the girl that I felt threatened by. She told me to think about others involved and how they felt so I asked her how she felt and she said it wasn't about her and blew me off. Why is she bringing it all up again after we solved the problem? How can I prove that I trust them and how can I fix our friendship? Please help!!


How do you ask a friend to have sex with ...

I am a 19 yr old male and have never had sex before although I have had a few girlfriends in the past. Right now I don't know what is happening to me... I really want to have sex and I don't care if it's with a girl that I'm dating or anyone else. The first person that comes to my mind is a friend of mine who may still have feelings for me. She's still a virgin and of my age and talks to me about how she gets turned on easily by guys, etc. and I know that she wants to have sex as well but I just don't know if she still has feelings for me. Either way it could backfire so I just wanted to know if you could help me figure out how I can ask her to have sex. Thanks a lot.



I came out to friends and now some are casting ...

I am 14 years old and came out to some of my close friends a few months ago and they all took it well. Anyway, I had a crush on one of my good friends for nearly two years. He was not among the ones I came out to. I have not confessed to him directly but he has probably heard it from my friends. However, because of recent events, I do not really have feelings for him anymore. For the past few weeks he has stopped talking to me and he has been telling my friends not to invite me when we all go out together, and sometimes they really do listen to him. I feel like they all hate me. I really just want to be friends with him again. What should I do?


I want to see my friend more frequently, but he ...

Hi, I need help: I want to meet up with my best friend more frequently, but he lives a 3 hour train journey away from me. He has a busy life, he works 5 days a week and works on the weekends but he is able to take days off. I only do a 3 day a week college course during the week so I have a lot of spare time and whenever I ask if we can meet up sometime he'll put it off and say he's always busy. We talk every day texting and instant messaging each other but I just want to spend more time with him. Does he not want to pursue this friendship? He means the world to me and he sometimes says that to me as well but I wonder if you have any wise words that would help me. I am desperate to meet up with him more frequently. I know he is not very comfortable travelling on his own, but even when I offer to go and see him, he won't let me. What should I do?


I have a straight friend who is now questioning her ...

I am attracted to females and always have been. I met this girl who is straight and we became friends but she did not know I was attracted to females. We stopped talking for a year because I told her I was attracted to her. Now a year passed by and she came back telling me she may be attracted to me but doesn't know. That she wants to see where things may go. Any clue why will a straight person do this? I'm confused!