Category: Bisexuality / Pansexuality


I’m wondering if I’m really a lesbian or if I’m ...

Ok, so, I've been questioning my sexuality a lot these past few months. I've found out that I'm certainly attracted to women in a romantic way and in a sexual way. And, personally, being with a woman sounds a lot more loving and comfortable than with a man. I thought I was attracted to guys, but I never really liked them romantically (not as much as women, and with a guy we really might have been just friends?) and that the thought of doing anything sexual with a guy grossed me out / made me very uncomfortable. For a while, I assumed I was asexual because of it. But when people pointed out if certain guys were hot, I could see where they were coming from, only I didn't really want to do anything with it. And when I was friends with guys, it was hard to tell if it was *just* friendship or a crush. But part of me still wonders if I'm really a lesbian or if I'm bi. I'm way more sure of my attraction to women than to guys. Do lesbians see that a guy is kinda hot, but don't really want to do anything about it? Is it comphet? PS : Thanks for answering, this website's really helped me out a lot


I’m wondering if, whether I was born bisexual and only ...

I’m in my late 50’s, married to a wonderful woman for over 30 years. I was always very attracted to women and my wife. As frequency of sex grew less over the years, I ventured into gay classifieds and was immediately turned on. I had never in the past had any romantic or sexual interest in men, at least that I was conscious of. I began to chat with guys on sites like Grindr but could never get up the nerve to actually meet anyone. I also value my marriage and don’t consciously like the idea of cheating on my wife. My sexual interest in her grew less and less (her interest in sex had waned over the years) and I started masturbating to gay porn and found it very erotic. That’s where I am now. I believe I am open minded sexually but not turned on by men romantically still, but very turned on sexually. I question whether I may have had homosexual feelings when I was younger and repressed them, growing up in a Christian culture where this was unacceptable, but I never had the slightest sign of this when I was younger, only a desire for women. I was also very shy and had low self esteem, so I didn’t date until I was older. I didn’t feel accepted by women then, but never felt the slightest desire for men. So today I am in a great, but sexless marriage (partly due to my lack being turned by my wife), and I constantly fantasize about sex and intimacy with men and seem to be stuck in that loop. I question to myself whether I was born bisexual and only recently realized it or did I develop this sexual appetite for men, maybe out of sexual boredom in my marriage


I was hoping someone could point me to where I ...

Hi, I've always identified as being a cis heterosexual male but have been questioning my sexuality for about 2 years now. I'm slowly accepting that I might actually be bi (probably a 2 on the Kinsey scale). I've always been a LGBTQ+ ally but have always had difficulty accepting anything other than straight for myself. I'm in a fairly new committed heterosexual relationship with a girl I love and that loves me. I've finally been able to open up about this with her and she was extremely accepting. It felt good to be heard, not judged, and has removed a lot of weight from my shoulders. I am happy with her, I feel satisfied sexually, and am happy being faithful to her. I'd love to be able to hear from other men who've been through a similar change. Most of what I found online showcased men who initially identified as gay who then realized they liked both. I had trouble relating to them and was hoping someone could point me to where I can find resources that talks about people with a more similar experience to mine. Best,



Am I bisexual because I want a relationship with a ...

I am currently fifteen and this August turning sixteen. In the past two years or so I have started being fiscally attracted to other men and sometimes I fantasize having sex in the future with men. I think I am straight because I have always wanted to have a wife with kids and have a family but I am not fiscally attracted to women. But i still haven't been in a relationship with a girl or a boy. I am confused about my sexuality. Am I gay because I am attracted more to them and not girls. Am I bi because I want a relationship with a girl but I will be down to try with a boy. Or am I just not ready to accept what my sexuality is?


Men: I’m attracted to everything above the waist only

I am somewhat confused at the moment. I have never considered myself a homosexual man, and I still don't. I have never had romantic feelings toward men, but have found myself attracted to them before. Like, I will see someone and find them attractive. However, I'm the same way with women. However, I have had romantic feelings towards them. I am in high school, and have had several crushes throughout my life. I've never actually had a girlfriend, but I'm still a freshman. I have found myself attracted to guys, but I don't want to see their dicks. What I have seen (from movies, porn, whatever) doesn't turn me on, and never has. However, I've been attracted to pretty much everything above the waist. Does that make sense? I'm seriously confused. Am I gay, bisexual, what? I don't feel romantically attracted to guys, but I don't mind when a pyschically fit guy is shirtless or whatever. I don't like the male penis, and would not get on my knees and suck it. I know that's...


Should I come out as a bisexual?

There's something which is bothering me. A lot of mates ask me or talk to me about their boyfriends and girlfriends. Would it be a good choice to tell everyone? I have no problems with who I am but my mother often tells me I do not have to talk about it with a lot of people. I just want to be me, not to lie even if it is to a question of someone I am not close with. You see, for me bisexuality or homosexuality is not a problem but when I think at the opinions of others about it, I think to myself that maybe I am doing something wrong. It passed quickly but I am still wondering if saying it just to mates that I am bisexual is a good idea? Because you know people can be mean in college so I do not know what to do... I am really tempted not to hide at all but I am not sure what to do.



I think my fiance is bisexual because he has no ...

My fiance and I are about to have our first child, and it seems lately he's had no sexual desire for me. Before I became pregnant we had a lot of sex, and he enjoyed being anally stimulated by me. My question is: why is it that before I didn't really feel my man was bisexual but now I'm having doubts. The only thing that would make me wonder is the fact that he took nude pictures when he was younger for an openly gay man. He also allowed this man to take him to FL to strip for extra cash on a few occasions. He vehemently denies any "homo" behavior with ANY man and becomes very angry if I question him. Is it possible that he found out on his own that he liked anal sex or is it more likely that this happened after an experience with a man he then knew? I don't know what it is but my intuition tells me he's keeping something from me. I just don't know if it's the fact that he's bisexual or even gay and just scared to "come out". I looked at the previously asked questions and didn't find anything similar to my situation. Please help!


Am I bisexual?

I think I might be bisexual; I have had fantasies about both men and women, but never really been in a relationship before so I have nothing to compare. I have a friend who is bi and I become uncomfortable if her & her boyfriend start making out, and I'm also uncomfortable changing in front of other women. My mother is Catholic and my family is very clear about their stand on the gay community; and I know that's clouding my judgment. I've never really felt a strong attraction to either sex (at least not that I'm aware of; I lie to myself a lot -is this normal?), but if my dad & brother are watching porn (straight & lesbian) in the room when I'm working on the computer I'll criticize it and pretend to be disgusted but watch it from the corner of my eye. For years I've been questioning my sexuality..... My friend is very open about what she thinks about women's looks and I get uncomfortable when she asks my opinion; I want to agree most of the time but am afraid to... Please help me sort this out.


I’m afraid girls will not want to be with me ...

In the past year I told my girlfriend of 7 years that I am bisexual. It has been hard on both of us. She thinks that I lied to her, and since then she has become increasingly verbally abusive, calling me me a fag. Basically, we have broken up despite the fact that I still love her... I'm finally at the point where I think I can date other women (and I have been dating guys as well), but I am afraid that girls will not want to be with me if I tell them that I'm bi? Should I tell them I'm bi? And are girls generally unwilling to date bisexual men?



I am bisexual and I want to know if I ...

Well, I am a Bisexual male , which is very rare as I have realized. There are bisexual females at my school, but I am a guy and they don't know what I endure everyday (I also don't know them personally). My friends give me a hard time about it, they argue with me sometimes and make "Bi Jokes". I want to be openly Bi, but it won't be easy since I am 13 and in middle school. I have a single parent (my mother) who tells me I better not ever come out saying I am gay. When I watch Tila Tequila (a bisexual) she calls her a freak. I am going to tell a lot of people when I get back to school (besides the other 9 who already know). This little secret has spread around the school and I will confirm this. I need to know what you think!