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Repulsed by men since I was raped, I don’t know ...

i was raped when i was 13 and i've adored girls since i was 14 always feeling repulsion for men, never attraction. I tried to act "normal" which also disgusted me, and i slept with 4 men to try and prove how normal i was. This whole act left me dead inside and i was utterly repulsed by me and my actions. I hated being gay and hid it from everyone. When i was twenty i met a man in a bar who i instantly fell for despite finding the male form repulsive. He is wonderful and tender and attentive and perfect, we have been married nearly 11 years. i have recently told him i am a lesbian though i have never had any girlfriends and tried to explain my past and the fact that basically i have lied about being straight. We still have sex and i adore him as a person and tend not to see him as a man, obviously everything is confusing, can you please help. He is very supportive and loving and is trying to understand, but i guess i just can't explain who i am very well. Am i a lesbian?


I want to be a lesbian, but I am unsure ...

I'm an 18yo girl who is very confused about her sexuality - I have gone from thinking I was straight, to gay, to bi and now I just don't know. Currently, I really really like this guy but I am not sexually attracted to him. At the same time, I really like this girl and I am sexually attracted to her. I have never found myself sexually attracted to guys, only girls, but my childhood crushes (until I was about 13) were all on guys. Also, this guy is the only guy I have ever really liked, as in, I think I could actually love him, I have otherwise lost interest in guys, but for some reason, I want them to like me and I sometimes get nervous when in close proximity to them. What does all this mean? This might be odd, but I actually want to be a lesbian, not bi or straight, but I'm not sure why. Is it possible to be emotionally attracted to both genders but sexually attracted to one? If this was true for me, am I still technically a lesbian (that's how I would prefer to identify)?





My friend asked me to have sex but he said ...

I am a boy and I have a friend who has had girlfriends before but sometimes when he would come over he wanted to do sexual things. Sometimes I would go to sleep and would wake up to find his arm over me and him right up against me. I asked him once before if he was gay and he said no. After that, he hasn't asked to do anything else. Claims it makes him feel bad or shameful. Is he gay? And if I liked some of the stuff he did, does it makes me gay?


What can I do to accept my sexual orientation ?

While I came out at the age of seventeen (I will soon be 22), I am finding it more and more difficult with every coming year to accept my sexual identity. I feel suffocated by how the word "lesbian" makes me feel and the hurt it has caused my very traditional immigrant family. I have even grown to dislike being near women, leaving me with nothing more than empty sexual attraction and loneliness. I simply have no clue how to pull myself out of this situation.