Tag: Trans

I’ve been struggling with my gender identity… Is the want ...

I've been struggling with my gender identity for the past couple of months, though I feel like this has been an ongoing thing I never noticed until now. Every spare moment I have I'm questioning who I am, who I want to be, and who I want to be perceived as. The main issue is that I don't feel comfortable being seen as a girl anymore. I've tried using some different pronouns to see how I felt, and it was nice for a bit, but I realized there was still something missing. I think I'm still in a lot of denial over how what's missing is the fact that I want to be perceived as a boy, but I feel like I can't have that, because physically, it's logical that I'm not one. Plus, I'm scared of even considering transitioning, it feels like a huge step that I don't know if I'll ever be ready for. While most of the time I'm yearning to be a guy, there are a few times where I feel okay as a girl. It's just so confusing, and I don't want to stick with something and then regret it later. I also feel like, is the want to be a man a fetishization thing? Because when I see healthy and happy male relationships in books or shows, I feel a sense of happiness from it and can relate to it to an extent. Does that mean these feelings of dysphoria are based on that? Because while it's one thing to put yourself in another character's shoes, I feel like there's a bit more to these feelings than that. Any insight would be really appreciated! Bao

I’m looking for youth trans resources in Montreal.

I’m a gender and sexualities educator for youth, and I was recently asked a couple of questions about Montreal resources that stumped me. One participant asked if I knew of any trans-friendly family doctors located in the West Island. Do you know of any resource lists of health professionals that I can direct them towards? Another question was regarding youth-friendly sexual assault support group resources (and ideally LGBTQ2+ friendly as well!) – I initially referred them to SACOMSS but I’m wondering if there’s another one that might be specifically targeted towards youth?

Will watching transexual porn compromise my hetero lifestyle?

I have been watching Transexual porn and I really enjoy it, but I'm afraid that it will compromise my heterosexual lifestyle that i love. I've also found that i enjoy anal penetration, My ex-girlfriend got me into it with her, but all of this makes me worry that I'm gay when I know I like women. So what does this make me straight with a fetish bi? I'm very confused and have been for quite some time

I realized I feel like a man…

Hi, Since 3 or 4 years, I realized that I feel like a man, although I'm a girl, physically. When I was young, I was feeling like If I was born in the wrong body. That made me feel very uncomfortable in public. Today, I feel angry when people call me by my "true" name or "Miss", or everything that reminds me my real gender. To ease the situation, I wear daily men clothes and my close friends call me by a male name. Moreover, I realized that I'm attracted by men. As a result, I needed to share my problem with my parents fastly, because I became depressive and confused. However, they didint believe me, and they said that I was probably fool. They hope that I'll be cared, some day, but I'm enough mature to know that the situation wont change. Later,I would like to become a realy man, but I'm afraid to loose my parent's love. I need your help, to know how to make my parents understand my sorrow and my trouble. How should I expalin them the transsexuality(and also my "homosexuality") issue?

I’m afraid my boyfriend will act out his fantasies!

Hi. I have been in a relationship with my BF for 2 yrs and in the last year have discovered his desire for tr*nnies. (women with penises) He's been watching tr*nny porn for 8 yrs. and also watches hetero porn, and bdsm porn. (we also have BDSM scenes where I'm the Domme and usually have a strap-on on; which I of course love) I for some reason am uncomfortable with his tr*nny desires. I think I feel threatened by them and fear I will lose him to a tr*nny if he acted on his urges/fantasies (which I believe he wants to) We have discussed this and he claims to desire the taboo and doesn't need to act on it. I want to know if I should just let him find a tr*nny to put his fantasies to reality or just leave it behind a screen? I fear that he will want to act on it eventually anyway but if he does I will want to leave. He also claims he is not bi, but would like a 3some w another guy where he would be "forced" by me to suck the guy off. That sounds bi. Does it mean he is?What's your advice?