Tag: support


Our parents caught us kissing and now I have to ...

I've always been a bit of a tomboy, but my parents would never let me do the things I wanted- the only sports they would let me play were the 'girly' ones- figure skating, ringette, soccer, cheerleading, ballet, gymnastics, etc. I guess maybe they figured something out about me at five that it took me years to realize: I'm gay. (My hands are shaking just typing that) I have a girlfriend, the most beautiful, awesome, smart, funny girl in the world. I love her. Nobody knew about us until yesterday, when her mother caught us kissing when we thought nobody was home. We're no longer allowed to see each other and my parents are sending me to Catholic school, because apparently 'this would never have happened in a Catholic school'. They're really, really, really angry. I'm- so many things. I'm terrified, I'm scared, I'm angry, I'm confused, and I'm really depressed. I just want to die, or run away from home and leave this hick town forever. I don't know what to do. Please help.


Limited trans resources in Saskatchewan Canada

I'm a transexual and have been all my life and moved to Saskatchewan when I was 18. I haven't found any kind of support here for transsexuals and I have been alone, completely alone in this, for about 20 years now in Saskatchewan. I am tired of doing this alone and need a support group. Are there any support groups in Sask? I've emailed several groups, including Pflag, and have gotten no response. Is anyone getting my emails? Thanks, Stephen =-)




Can I change the fact that I am feeling more ...

I think I am transgendered but, don't want to believe my marriage and life has been a lie. My question is this...How can you change what you feel on the inside? How can you avoid what feels like an inevitable sex change? I love my wife and family very much but, I have the strongest feminine desires I have ever had. I feel like I am not supposed to be a man. I feel more feminine than masculine. How can you change that? I am on the verge of losing my wife of almost 8 years because I don't know how to deal with these feelings. I try to run from it but, somehow it always catches up with me. I want to know that I can beat this. I have been told that whether I want or not I will eventually become female.


I’m out but still questioning, and I need some advice. ...

Hi... Well, everyone knows about the term "coming out of the closet"... Well a while back, I was pulled out. So now I don't know what to do. Everywhere I look, there's someone making a wise-crack about it. Problem is, I'm not sure myself what I am. I never really cared before, I just rolled with the punches. But now that everyone knows, everything is just unbearable. They even somehow found out about some of my past experiences, and are using them as a basis. even though anyone knows, I can't seem to admit it. My close friends stuck around (mostly because they're homosexual or bisexual, so they're fine with it). Even though they know what I'm going through, I can't seem to speak up. I don't know what i'm asking really, I just want some advice, to make things a bit easier and reassure me. Thanks for your time, and for trying to answer my slightly confusing letter. - Jeffrey


I am confused. Can you help me identify who ...

I am so confused right now, I am attracted to people of my same sex and have even done stuff with them, but I still don't know if I'm bi or what I am because those might have been just fases so I've heard from other people but I'm still attracted to them. But I'm currently involved with a girl and I'm having trouble labeling myself as bi or straight. Thanks for taking the time to read my letter and just any kind of advice will be helpful. - Nick





Am I gay? Who can I talk to?

Dear AlterHeros Staff,

Well, I don't know if I'm gay or not. I used to think that I was, and I hated myself for it. So I started to condition myself to be aroused by girls, hiding for years. Now I'm realizing that I can't change my sexuality, but I also find myself aroused by girls. I'm confused and lost and depressed because I can't figure out what to do anymore. My school performance is suffering, I'm 21, my relationships with my friends are deteriorating and I'm distancing myself everyday from my parents. Can you help me please? I saw a psych already and he told me I was straight, I fooled him well... so well that I fooled myself.