Tag: sexuality


My partner is asexual and I’m not. How can we ...

I feel kinda awkward asking this but there aren’t many ressources so I think this is my best shot. I’m trans and my bf is also trans. We are in a long distance relationship. He’s asexual and I’m not however he’s pretty okay with having sex he just doesn’t get anything out of it and he prefers kinky things then actual sex. We’ve tried a few things but I wanna find a way I can make both me and him happy sexually dépiste being far apart. Any suggestions on how to do that in long distance relationships ?


I took a molly pill and went to a club ...

Hello, im 23 year old on November 2.. I took a molly pill and went to a club where i had my first questioning on if im gay since a man looked at me from distance.. Since this day I started overthinking and checking and obsessing over guy and gay thoughts.. I dont go a minute without thinking of it and its gotten to the point where i dont want to be with girls when truly ive always been straight and loved and been atttacted to them.. my loss of desire and appeal for girls and surely ramped up my belief i really am gay.. now today im at a point where i can barely work through a shift of 8 hours so i had to adapt and open up to my close friends and tell them I might have to label myself gay for now to help cope with my anxiety.. Idk what to do but i just wish i was like before and just attracted to girls and still want to be straight and not gay.. Idk what to do but im definitely depressed and unsure of myself but everything seems like im gay..


It’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label ...

Are my feelings normal? What should I do? I don’t know if I can stand these feelings. I’m struggling a lot with my sexual orientation in recent years. Till 2 years ago, I found myself attracted to boys in my class, constantly trying to catch a glimpse of their butts or bulge. I also enjoyed gay porn, and loved looking at pictures of men in underwear. However, over the year, I began to look at straight porn, often in form of animations. My sexual feelings also changes, as I find myself aroused from watching straight porn. In fact, I suddenly find myself less attracted to guys, even though romantically, I still can’t imagine myself with a girl. Swimsuit models often give me semi-erection or outright hard on, while gay porn becomes dissatisfying. Though I usually have gay sexual fantasy, I sometimes imagine being a hot girl having sex with hot guys at school. Nowadays, I develop this deep worry that my gay feeling were fake, and nothing but a phase, which deeply troubles me since I feel so much more comfortable being gay or at least bi. I began to pay attention to how I conduct myself to see if I was “too straight” or “too gay”, trying to match my internal feelings. Contact with guys doesn’t seem to turn me on like it used to, even if I find them attractive. When I’m at my worst, I sometimes focusing excessively on gay guys and gay porn, trying to masturbate to them to confirm my emotions. Yet, I often ended up watching straight porn, and becoming more aroused by them. After each straight masturbation session, I feel bad for enjoying them - a feeling I never had with gay porn. Even when I tried quitting porn for an extensive period (usually a week or more), I find myself in the same situation. At this point, I don’t even know what to do anymore: I tried accepting my feelings, but my hetero side just doesn’t feel right. At the same time, it’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label as this point, seeing that it doesn’t reflect how my attraction is so confusing.





Late period

Ok so this is going to be TMI, apologizes in advance. My boyfriend and I had protected sex early November. Since then I've had two normal periods (heavy flow, horrible cramps the works). But as of now my period is 15 days late! I've taken three AHPT all have come back negative. I know stress can throw off your cycle, and with a new job I've been pretty darn stressed,and I know there's probably a very slim chance I'm pregnant. But what's going on? My period used to be super irregular but the past year it's been fairly regular.



My husband is obsessed with anal penetration and he wants ...

I've been married one year and with my spouse for 4 years. He has cross-dressing fetishes which are fine by me. He has not shared this with anyone else, only myself. Wigs, pantyhose, underwear..... It's all ok with me. He also likes anal penetration. Lately it has become an obsession of his. Over the past 8 months we have had problems because he emails and texts other men about his fantasies (that meets via Craigslist) and uses that to stimulate himself while he's dressed and masterbating. We came to agreement that he would not use other people but would allow me to please him. Now he wants to have a 3some with me and another man. I'm not comfortable with that so he just wants to go out and have sex with a man, alone. He says it's fair because he had offered to let me play a part in it. I find it as cheating and being unloyal. Ive offered to play with him just us two but he says it's not the same, it must be a guy. What can I do?



What do I do about these fantasies, about this attraction? ...

I started having gay feelings when I was 15 and it remained my main sexual orientation despite of having feelings for women from time to time. i have never had a coming out and only few erotic encounters with both women and men but i have never been in a relationship so far. i have two questions that worry me deeply: I have fantasies about having sex with my own father from time to time, nrief fantasies about him nacked that kind of arouse me - which worries me because i think i might have dangerous problems. second i discovered that young boys (8-12) attract me - i never had these feelings until 6 or 7 weeks ago and i don't know what exactly this attraction is and means - it worries me as well. i want to live and love without fear - should i be worried?



I am aroused by pictures of female genitals, is it ...

I’ve considered myself heterosexual all my life.I had and still have romantic and sexual attraction towards particular men.However, there is one thing that is haunting me, namely I am able to be genitally aroused by the pictures of both male and female genitals.I began to masturbate when I was 5 or 6. When I was 8 or 9, I used to masturbate while looking at playboy pics, which was the only sexual thing in my environment at that time. I remember I used to fantasize about myself being one of those women posing for men; these fantasies accompanied masturbation as well. Now, as I am older, I don't react in that way anymore.However, I noticed that I am still able to be aroused by the pictures of female genitals. I tried to imagine myself having sex with a woman, but it simply doesn't appeal to me. Am I bisexual because of this arousal? Can I still name myself heterosexual? Or maybe it arouses me because I associate it with oral sex performed on woman(I'm virgin and use porn to masturbate)?