Tag: sexual orientation


Am I bisexual because I want a relationship with a ...

I am currently fifteen and this August turning sixteen. In the past two years or so I have started being fiscally attracted to other men and sometimes I fantasize having sex in the future with men. I think I am straight because I have always wanted to have a wife with kids and have a family but I am not fiscally attracted to women. But i still haven't been in a relationship with a girl or a boy. I am confused about my sexuality. Am I gay because I am attracted more to them and not girls. Am I bi because I want a relationship with a girl but I will be down to try with a boy. Or am I just not ready to accept what my sexuality is?


Can you be lesbian without a strong attraction towards anyone ...

Can you be lesbian without a strong attraction towards anyone yet? I’ve never really felt a strong attraction towards or had a crush on anyone of either gender yet. I’ve been questioning my sexuality for a while, and i started to think i might be a lesbian. This has lead me to the question, do i need to have felt a strong attraction or had a crush on a girl to be a lesbian? And does it really matter anyway? Many thanks, Samantha


I took a molly pill and went to a club ...

Hello, im 23 year old on November 2.. I took a molly pill and went to a club where i had my first questioning on if im gay since a man looked at me from distance.. Since this day I started overthinking and checking and obsessing over guy and gay thoughts.. I dont go a minute without thinking of it and its gotten to the point where i dont want to be with girls when truly ive always been straight and loved and been atttacted to them.. my loss of desire and appeal for girls and surely ramped up my belief i really am gay.. now today im at a point where i can barely work through a shift of 8 hours so i had to adapt and open up to my close friends and tell them I might have to label myself gay for now to help cope with my anxiety.. Idk what to do but i just wish i was like before and just attracted to girls and still want to be straight and not gay.. Idk what to do but im definitely depressed and unsure of myself but everything seems like im gay..



It’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label ...

Are my feelings normal? What should I do? I don’t know if I can stand these feelings. I’m struggling a lot with my sexual orientation in recent years. Till 2 years ago, I found myself attracted to boys in my class, constantly trying to catch a glimpse of their butts or bulge. I also enjoyed gay porn, and loved looking at pictures of men in underwear. However, over the year, I began to look at straight porn, often in form of animations. My sexual feelings also changes, as I find myself aroused from watching straight porn. In fact, I suddenly find myself less attracted to guys, even though romantically, I still can’t imagine myself with a girl. Swimsuit models often give me semi-erection or outright hard on, while gay porn becomes dissatisfying. Though I usually have gay sexual fantasy, I sometimes imagine being a hot girl having sex with hot guys at school. Nowadays, I develop this deep worry that my gay feeling were fake, and nothing but a phase, which deeply troubles me since I feel so much more comfortable being gay or at least bi. I began to pay attention to how I conduct myself to see if I was “too straight” or “too gay”, trying to match my internal feelings. Contact with guys doesn’t seem to turn me on like it used to, even if I find them attractive. When I’m at my worst, I sometimes focusing excessively on gay guys and gay porn, trying to masturbate to them to confirm my emotions. Yet, I often ended up watching straight porn, and becoming more aroused by them. After each straight masturbation session, I feel bad for enjoying them - a feeling I never had with gay porn. Even when I tried quitting porn for an extensive period (usually a week or more), I find myself in the same situation. At this point, I don’t even know what to do anymore: I tried accepting my feelings, but my hetero side just doesn’t feel right. At the same time, it’s impossible for me to embrace “gay” as a label as this point, seeing that it doesn’t reflect how my attraction is so confusing.


I had a wet dream about a boy and it ...

Hi there, I’ve been tormented by multiple mental problems over the last 2 months including depression, anxiety and I started questioning my own sexuality but the way it started was weird. I have never in my life questioned my sexuality or felt any romantic or sexual feelings towards other men but one night In July I had what you would call a wet dream about a friend who I kinda don’t like. After that dream I woke up with a boner and I was scared to death. Now fast forward a little bit and I find myself trying out different things, first I just tried to ignore it but that didn’t help. I couldn’t get hard thinking about women at all and “I” was only aroused by homosexual content. I wrote “I” because it was like I had 2 conflicting personalities, My own personality was disgusted and repulsed by the idea of me being with another man but the other me was aroused by it. A few weeks went by like this and I started being able to be turned on by females again but I couldn’t shake the other thing off and whenever I thought about my sexuality, it would reset me to point 1 and I would have to do it all over again. Then some weeks later it felt like it was over and I would get turned on by women again and not men anymore but somehow I began thinking about it again and now I’m back at the problems again and I can’t escape it. All I’ve ever wanted in life is a normal and natural life with a wife and 100% me and my wife’s own kid, and I still want that. I would literally do anything to go back and everything besides my dick is saying no to all this bullshit. I’ve read so many articles and forum post that I’m confused at to what the problem is and no, it has nothing to do with “coming out”. my family and friends would a 100% accept me if I was gay or anything. I would rather isolate myself than be gay or mainly attracted to men. I’ve only met resistance In life and now this too? I might blow my brains out Jesus.