Tag: relationship


What if I stay in this relationship for the rest ...

I've been in a relationship with a queer female person for a year now. I've never been in any other relationship. We're in a very happy and healthy relationship together. But, I'm worried about the future. What if I stay in this relationship for the rest of my life, and never have any experiences with other people, or with people of other genders? I feel badly for thinking this way, but the both of us starting CEGEP has me thinking of my future. My partner and I talk about everything, but I don't want her to feel like I don't want to be with her by telling her this. Though they're very supportive of my queerness, my parents might like the idea of me "trying a relationship with a boy too", so I feel like they aren't the best people to ask. And I have no queer adults in my life to look up to who. I don't know what I should do or who I should talk to.


My partner is asexual and I’m not. How can we ...

I feel kinda awkward asking this but there aren’t many ressources so I think this is my best shot. I’m trans and my bf is also trans. We are in a long distance relationship. He’s asexual and I’m not however he’s pretty okay with having sex he just doesn’t get anything out of it and he prefers kinky things then actual sex. We’ve tried a few things but I wanna find a way I can make both me and him happy sexually dépiste being far apart. Any suggestions on how to do that in long distance relationships ?




I feel more comfortable around women than men. Am I ...

How do I know if I'm straight and only feel threatened by men because of the experiences,I've seen, of other women at the hands of abusive men? How do I know if I'm genuinely attracted to women and not just because they are non-threatening? I'm a 25 year old female and have never been in a relationship. I've seen many abusive relationships between heterosexual couples, and the idea of being physically intimate with a man scares me. So each time someone expresses interest in me I shut them down. More recently, I've thought that I may be a lesbian because I'm more comfortable around women and spend more time with women than men. The only men that I feel comfortable with are men who have character traits typically associated with women and men that are openly gay. I am very close to my female friends and now feel self-aware when I'm with them because of the possibility of being attracted to them. Is there any way to know if I'm straight, a lesbian or bisexual?


I get more excited about women, but would prefer to ...

About a year ago, I began to be attracted to gay men, in looks and stereotypical personalities, and watching them "do stuff" turns me on. I became sort of obsessed with the gay community and started watching logo, reading gay books, etc, and standing up for gay rights whenever it's mentioned. I thought I was a little weird, but still considered myself straight, just something of a "fag-hag". But, lately, I've found myself more attracted to women than guys. When I think of women, I tend to get more excited than I do with men, but I like the idea of a bf more than a gf. I feel like a total hypocrite saying this, but I'm terrified of the thought that I might be a lesbian. I've always hidden my "gay obsession" from my dad because I know how he'd react, but my mom knows and she asked me once if I was a lesbian and I gave her a definite "no". I feel like I'd be betraying her if I decided I was. I'm very shy and have never had a boyfriend, crush, or male friend since I was 7. What do (...)




Repulsed by men since I was raped, I don’t know ...

i was raped when i was 13 and i've adored girls since i was 14 always feeling repulsion for men, never attraction. I tried to act "normal" which also disgusted me, and i slept with 4 men to try and prove how normal i was. This whole act left me dead inside and i was utterly repulsed by me and my actions. I hated being gay and hid it from everyone. When i was twenty i met a man in a bar who i instantly fell for despite finding the male form repulsive. He is wonderful and tender and attentive and perfect, we have been married nearly 11 years. i have recently told him i am a lesbian though i have never had any girlfriends and tried to explain my past and the fact that basically i have lied about being straight. We still have sex and i adore him as a person and tend not to see him as a man, obviously everything is confusing, can you please help. He is very supportive and loving and is trying to understand, but i guess i just can't explain who i am very well. Am i a lesbian?


My friend and i like each other but now her ...

When I moved here from California, I didn't have many friends because I was quiet and my now best friend, Victoria, was one of the first people to befriend me. Over the past few years i've been become attrcted to her as more than a friend. I had let her know and we talked about and she said that she had been having the same feelings. The problem is that I had confronted her too late. She now has a boyfriend whom she says she loves very much, and I know I should be happy for her, but everytime I get near her, her boyfriend starts getting really physical and won' even let me hug her. I want to stay friends with her, but it hurts me to be around her when he's there. And he's ALWAYS there, so I never get a second alone to talk to her. I've always liked boys, never girls, so his is really hard for me and I'm afraid if I tell her what I think of her bf, she'll be mad at me and I really don't want to lose her.


I hate that I am attracted to men…

When i was first entering puberty i was heterosexual and had fasination with the female body. Then around the age of 10 that fascination switched to men and it has been that way ever since, reason unknown. I grew up hating that I was attracted to men and a part of me still hates the 'gay' me. Recently I began accepting the fact that I could be gay, and both friends and family has been very supportive of my desicion. However even now I don't know what i am. I am physically attracted to males but emotionally attracted to females. I find this rift grows when I add in the fact that I want kids, I want to offer a life what my mom AND dad gave me. I want to continue my own flesh and blood with a wife I love but I'm scared that I will be unfaithful and go back to guys, because I'm more attracked to them physically. I tried boyfriends but they just turn to sexual flings and most guys a meet are TOO gay for my liking, however there have been possible relationships. I feel so torn!



Should I tell these girls I like them?

Well hello! I'm a 13 year old bi-sexual girl. I really have no problem with being bi, and my friends dont either. Well to get to the point, I have this HUGE crush on this lesbian girl i go to cadets with but I dont know how she feels about me. Last time we talked about it, she had a girlfriend but they didnt go to the same school and hadent seen eachother a whole lot lately (that was almost 2 months ago) and she likes this other girl that's straight, and is my age. (the girl i like is 15) But when we went to this summer camp (cadets) she kinda flirted with me. And at night it was SOO cold usualy we'd all sleep 2 in a bed and she'd always want me to sleep with her ^.^. and this is before i KNEW i was bi, well i kinda did but i didnt admit it quite then. Anyway, but theres also my friend from school that i really like but she's (so far) straight. Almost the same situation. She flirts a lot, not just with me though. I really like both of them but i dont know if i should tell them, or what.