Tag: Queer


I have known that I was queer since I was ...

So, I do I don’t really know the point of asking this aside from maybe finding solace. So I have known that I was queer since I was 13. I began liking boys once I hit puberty, and it was something I never really brought up. I always grew up with crushes on my make friends, even in the present. I never personally denied it to myself, I just was unsure when or what to confront about it. In some ways it never bothered me, but as I’ve gotten older and closer to being a real adult, it’s certainly affected me more. I know there’s absolutely nothing wrong with liking the same sex. I know that. I KNOW that…but I think despite accepting my sexuality, that I still feel a sense of shame for it. Maybe it’s me reconciling the ideas that a naive child has for a future, with the viewpoint of an adult. During one of my lectures, I actually liked a girl and we went out for a while. I believe I did have a crush on her, but sometimes I just think that I was gaslighting myself to avoid my abstract insecurities on my sexual orientation. I can’t really tell if it’s a fluke or not. I think she’s been the only girl that I’ve maybe been interested in. I don’t know. For the past few months I’ve been having infrequent wet dreams. All five of them have involved men, and the day after I would always wake up with a vexing sadness, lonliness and apprehension. They felt good, and I can see myself with a man, I just overthink the emotional and cultural baggage associated with it. It feels terrible to be victimized by something you didn’t choose. I know that I shouldn’t really worry about labels and whatnot, but it’s frustrating to be second guessing everything. I can’t even come out to my brothers. I want to, but it fills me with inexplicable dread. I think deep down that I don’t want to be seen as gay. I’ve come out to my parents, but I don’t know why I can’t my siblings. They would accept me. just as warmly as my parents have, but I can’t articulate why. I just don’t want to be judged, and I want to feel normal. I know they wouldn’t care but I can’t shake that anxiety. These emotions feel so familiar, yet so esoteric. I know that one day I’ll do it, but I just don’t know when. I thought I outgrew such a backward notion. I dunno, my emotions to it are so contradictory and complex towards the issue maybe I should seek a therapist.



I was assigned Male at birth and I just don’t ...

Hi, I have talked to a Psychiatrist at Interligne saying I didn't feel right in my body. I was assigned Male at birth and I just don't feel male. I feel like I'm in the ''middle'' but leaning towards the feminine side which is my problem. I wish I could stare at myself in the mirror and not feel bad about how I look. I would love to look more feminine in all parts but this is not what I see. The person at Interligne told me to ''Grow hair, shave body, makeup, do my nails, etc.'' but I already do all that in my daily life and still not happy with my body/face. I just told the Social Worker I talk to about this ''problem'' that has existed for me for many years now and they sent me here. I have a family doctor which I don't feel comfortable telling all this and I don't know what to do, I am lost. A request has been submitted for me to meet a psychiatrist I think (It's not confirmed, the Social Worker is working on the demand) What should I do? Jae



Am I bisexual because I want a relationship with a ...

I am currently fifteen and this August turning sixteen. In the past two years or so I have started being fiscally attracted to other men and sometimes I fantasize having sex in the future with men. I think I am straight because I have always wanted to have a wife with kids and have a family but I am not fiscally attracted to women. But i still haven't been in a relationship with a girl or a boy. I am confused about my sexuality. Am I gay because I am attracted more to them and not girls. Am I bi because I want a relationship with a girl but I will be down to try with a boy. Or am I just not ready to accept what my sexuality is?


I have tried out different labels, asexual, queer, lesbian, straight ...

Hey, so ive always sort of felt i was bisexual. since probably around 8, however recently (probably like 13) i realized that thats not true. i feel uncomfortable around men, im not sure if its just like a phobia or something to do with my dad (as i never knew him) the idea of kissing or intimately touching a man makes me extremely uncomfortable, ive had boyfriends in the past and being physically close to them is really really hard for me. even emotionally i dont know how to let them in, im worried it will always be this way as ive tried so many things and its all yet to work. i have tried out different labels, asexual, queer, lesbian, straight and nothing seems to fit right. for a little while asexual is what i went with even though i didnt think it fit right, because im not sexually attracted to anyone. being close to girls has always been easier for me, ive even kissed a few, hugging hand holding etc etc just works better but im not sure if its because i dont like females or because i do. it all just sort of blurs together and i never know what im feeling. i grew up in a home that wasnt very affectionate and so i was thinking maybe that had something to do with it? my parents didnt like eachother that much and fought a lot and again, i thought that mightve been a reason as to why i cant make meaningful relationships. i dont know really maybe this was a bad idea but if there was anything you could help me with, or anything you could like clarify for me it would be great. please get back to me :). Lala


I want to be a lesbian, but I am unsure ...

I'm an 18yo girl who is very confused about her sexuality - I have gone from thinking I was straight, to gay, to bi and now I just don't know. Currently, I really really like this guy but I am not sexually attracted to him. At the same time, I really like this girl and I am sexually attracted to her. I have never found myself sexually attracted to guys, only girls, but my childhood crushes (until I was about 13) were all on guys. Also, this guy is the only guy I have ever really liked, as in, I think I could actually love him, I have otherwise lost interest in guys, but for some reason, I want them to like me and I sometimes get nervous when in close proximity to them. What does all this mean? This might be odd, but I actually want to be a lesbian, not bi or straight, but I'm not sure why. Is it possible to be emotionally attracted to both genders but sexually attracted to one? If this was true for me, am I still technically a lesbian (that's how I would prefer to identify)?




Am I bisexual or bi-curious ? And how could I ...

am extremely confused right now. For a long time, I had lots of crushes on guys, and even one the beginnings of dating one guy. I was SURE I was 100% heterosexual, but now I'm not so positive. There is a girl in one of my college courses that I have developed feelings for. Not only that, but I have also begun to think of OTHER girls as attractive. Am I Bisexual? Bi-curious? I'm fairly certain I could be able to "come out" to my family if so, but I don't want to tell them I'm something I'm not! If I am Bisexual or Bi-curious, the person I'd love to tell is my roommate, but she believes Gays, Lesbians, and Bisexuals are posessed by demons. I have read several of your other answers to other questions, and it seems you know a lot about these issues. Do you know of any solution to my problems, both with my roommate and my (for lack of a better word) crush? Please help!!!


Six Nominations for AlterHeros at the Allostars!

During a press conference in Montreal held at the Serge et Réal Bookstore on February 9th, 2006, the QAQY (Quebec Alliance of Queer Youth) announced its list of finalist for the first annual Allostars Gala, an event that has been created to recognize the work of queer youth. We are pleased to be among six out of the twenty finalists!